and hurt or decieve us. We still care about them?? Why do we still think about the good qualities and forget or forgive what they did or the bad qualities about them. I am talking about someone that you cared for and knew...not a stranger, because thats easy to realize. Why is it hard for a person to get over someone who did him/her wrong.?? I am asking from a pschological point of view, why do good people forgive those who abuse or betray them...knowing very well they don't deserve it?
2007-03-24 18:02:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I ask this, because if we see it with our own eyes what they did, why shouldn' t it be easy for someone to be done with it, and so many can move on, like they should, and not suffer for these people. Why can't many get passed it? Is it all pychological?
2007-03-24 18:04:17 · update #1
Hello, again, Mia.
I feel as though we're old friends. I see that you're still thinking about this guy and still trying to work things out in your heart and mind. That's perfectly normal. The reason that you still care about this guy is that you're a good, decent, and loving person. You know the saying, "Two wrongs don't make a right"? Well, that applies to you. Just because he's been awful to you, doesn't mean that you hate him or want to see any harm come to him. Once again, that is because you are a good person and your love is REAL. That is why you still care for him. However, you can't continue to let him hurt you. Time and supportive friends and family members can help in your healing process. I sincerely wish you the best. Each time I read one of your postings, I can almost feel your pain. That's because you are genuine. Don't ever change that for anyone, but don't allow anyone to mistreat you either. As always, best wishes and God bless.
2007-03-24 19:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often people are so in need of love and affirmation that they will forgive ANYTHING. Many people stay in abusive relationships for that reason. They deserve better and know they should get out but don't fell they can . THEY CAN !!
2007-03-25 01:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by htuch2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
differences of realization are not in and of the perspectives a more right or more wrong determination.
a moral expectancy as rule of thumb for making one more correct and therefore other less correct and appropriate to burden with all wrong of realization (<..punishment..//...vengeance...retribution...)......is an unquiet feeling disturbance for all reasons and so perspectifs.
"true colors"....seem to stipulate a normal practice but make no condition of regularity.
thus is created the realization(s) of they whom did see it to begin with...by some clarity or no. each create their own color(s) of other(s) . one is unlikely to make one in language of an other(s). making differences of realization for (pre)judgements and opportunity for sharing (un)kindly with....to do be have personal acceptance....and social acceptance before ye.
be well ye
2007-03-25 01:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because they are blind to see that there is a problem there, they refuse to accept that fact either consciously or (most of the time) subconsciously. They can see that there is a problem/bad qualities (for example abuse) and it is justified ("he hits me because he loves me" or "because his father hit him").
2007-03-25 01:08:56 · answer #4 · answered by Clark K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its more of a power (ego) quality. I find your questions somewhat confusing. Maybe you could clarify it for us.
2007-03-25 01:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by carpentershammerer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kind of psycho as I know that the person likes to be hurt from the other person, this way he/she thinks that the other person is more important
2007-03-25 01:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by Tom S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋