My husband cheated and I'm devastated. He doesn't seem to care and I loved him with my everything. We are getting divorced....but I can't seem to get over this heartache. Any suggestions?
2007-03-24 17:51:46 · 17 answers · asked by caramelqueen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
counseling and a good divorce support group. time can heal but its' what you do in that time. sometimes folks end up hurtnig for years and years but it's cause they didnt do anything constructive during that crucial time. one day you'll get to a point where you love him, and yet you can start your life again. good luck!
2007-03-24 17:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from my own personal experience NOTHING will help but time. And even then, when the thought comes to mind, or memories, a pain will still stab you straight through the heart. I think it is more the feeling of he doesn't care than the actual betrayal. Just remember, you deserve better and you deserve to be happy. My ex is a miserable person now. He is 47, with a 28 year old wife and a 5 year old and grandkids almost that old. I'm enjoying my grands! And beginning to enjoy life. You will too...with time...God Bless.
2007-03-25 01:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by swtserenity43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first you need to take is a deep breath. Stop beating yourself up for loving this man. Accept that things are changing, and know that time is the only thing that is going to help. Look at each day that passes as just one more day gone and that tomorrow is a brand new day. Dont feel you have to immediately rush into finding someone new and do one good thing for yourself each and every day, even if it is simply allowing yourself to a hot bath with candles and a good book. It's hard to let go of something that you put your heart and soul into, but with each passing day the pain will ease a fraction more and know that in your heart, you deserve more than what he ever gave you to begin with.
2007-03-25 01:02:56 · answer #3 · answered by sassyliz32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your pain. It is a terrible thing to give someone everything you have only to have it trashed. It will just take time to heal. Just don't judge all men by this jerk's actions. There are many caring and loving men out here yet. You just need to guard your heart closely and don't give of yourself too soon into a relationship. You will find a man that will give you the life that you want and deserve. Just be patient. I wish you the best of luck and get rid of this lowlife as soon as possible.
2007-03-25 01:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there will be a few stages that you are going to go through. The one thing to keep in mind is that the sun will come up tomorrow and you are going to be there when it does. I know that sometimes we think that our lives are dependent upon our spouses, reality is that just is not so.
Give yourself sometime. It took me about 6 months to get my mind wrapped around the idea of being without my ex. But eventually life gets back into it's routine and things just start clicking.
Be very care-full of getting back into the saddle though. If you jump into a new relationship, it will probably be to get your and his physical needs met, which will probably be OK for a couple of weeks. Just don't be too hard on yourself for now and realize that it's him and not you.
2007-03-25 01:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by wildwillyinva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did he cheat on you? Were you not meeting his needs that you pushed him away in the hands of another woman? Find those questions first, and then ask him if he is willing to make the marriage work. If not, then you will have to do your best to get over this.
Please do get these two great books called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
2007-03-25 01:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about what you're going through.
The only thing I can say to you is time. Time (usually quite a bit of it), is the only way to recover, and unfortunately, you may never fully get over it. A broken heart is one of the things that can very rarely be fully repaired. But with every break there is growth, and with growth (eventually) comes happiness.
I wish you all the best.
2007-03-25 01:12:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come cry with me, friend. I'm in the same boat, I'm getting divorced too, due to his cheting. Talking with friends, not spending too much time alone and keeping busy will all help. Time, of course, is the greatest healer of all. You will get over it, it doesn't feel like it now, because it's too fresh and raw, but I promise you will. Kind regards, Penny xx
2007-03-25 01:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not finding the right person, it's being the right person.
The heartache will pass. Time will mend your broken heart. Pull up your boot-straps girlfriend!
2007-03-25 01:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Soulfulgrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out and live your life. Don't sit and think about it and most important DO NOT think he cheated because of you. He cheated because he is probably insecure or just has no character (maybe both). If it was any other woman he would have done it to her.
2007-03-25 00:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by Starrlyte 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋