I did not think it was possible but it did happen. My best friends husband. I am friends with both but I love him. I am really friends with both, but thats beside the point. They were living with my because of hard times. She was arrested during that time and spent 2 months in jail. Him and I were together all the time during those months. In those months he flirted and I flirted and there was some touching. He tried to get me to have sex with him but I wouldnt. I didnt want to her hurt her, although I wanted him so bad. He told me during that time of the problems in their marriage and that if anything did happen that they split then he would want to be with me. I was so happy to hear that and I took it to heart. In my eyes he cant do anything wrong. I know they are having problems and that things might not work out. I think of him all the time. I have never loved a man like I love him. I do not know what to do. Should I tell him how I feel?
2007-03-24 17:20:31 · 17 answers · asked by stacyda20 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would really like some serious answers please no more judging.
2007-03-26 18:39:16 · update #1
NO, NO, NO! How would you feel if your friend did that to you? Find a single man who is in no way connected to any friends and then go for it.
2007-03-24 17:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Julia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this will seem like judging, but I'm not. Please put your self in the place of his wife. What if he decided to leave his wife and marry you? Could you trust him after what happened? This is something you really need to think very seriously about because not much good can come of it. This is really hard I know, but you need to stop and move on. I'm serious. Some people will look at you as a home wrecker. Do you know what is interesting about that? They never look at the man, just the woman. What does that tell you. Please, for your own sake, get out of that situation. I'm afraid that you are the one who is going to be hurt by all of this. Men can walk away and women wind up with the
bad reputation. Good luck. Please think about what I said.
2007-03-31 21:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Garnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same crap, different time of day. This is cheating. If they do end up getting divorced, then you can be together; but remember the old saying of "If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you."
Sound familiar.
This is adultery, this is an emotional affair with a married man. With a friend like you this couple needs no enemies.
Grow up and find a single man to "love."
2007-03-25 00:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you actually want a guy who has demonstrated that he can't be trusted? If I were your friend, I'd say go ahead and take him, but remember -- all sales are FINAL! I think your girlfriend deserves a better husband AND a better friend. If you really don't want to hurt her, get over him. Don't talk to him, don't see him, don't be alone with him. Find yourself a real man who doesn't take advantage of women and can be trusted when your back is turned.
2007-03-25 00:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to step aside. He's a married man. He needs time to sort through his marriage problems. If you are really friends with her too, then you don't want to compound the problem. If things don't work out between them, you should still give him time. After all, you don't want him on the rebound do you?
2007-03-25 00:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by dble_ll28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away. If you go to him, you aren't a loyal friend to either. If they are having problems, that is between them. I don't think you should present yourself to him as "Plan B". Find your own man.
Response to your additional details -
If you are looking for a fan club, announcing you are in love with a married man is not the way to go about getting it. We thought you were looking for honest response - if you can't take it, don't ask.
2007-03-25 00:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him how you feel, if there are actually as much trouble in the marriage as he says, then it would let him know of how you feel, since he has wanted sex with you, you already know how far he is willing to go, so all you need to do is to let him know your feelings. Your friend (his wife) probably won't like you too well for what you might have to tell her, but if she's a true friend then everything will work out.
2007-03-25 00:27:15 · answer #7 · answered by gremlin_98_01 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
How do you feel about taking another woman's man? Unless he is divorced, he is a pig. His wife doesnt know. Trust me. Stop. Carma works. Would you want that done to you?
My hubby says if he would cheat on her with you.. he will cheat on you with someone else, more than likely.
Even if you wind up with him...........you wouldnt trust him and he wouldnt trust you. Move on.........and be more selective in the future. I am glad you are not my friend.
2007-03-25 00:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm no dr. phil but you were living with your friend's husband and she went to jail, i don't think it was right for you to get involved in relationship with him however i understand that sometimes emotions take control over common sense i think what you should do is come clean with your friend tell her what happened and let whatever happens happen if the rellationship between the friend and yourself is for real then she''ll understand and leave the cheating husband behind
2007-04-01 12:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by reynoldsbarry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sweetie, dont tell him how you feel, dont spend time with him, if you continue with this you will get very hurt, dont forget that what man has done once man will do again.Also what sort of friend are you to his wife?Not a good one in my opinion. Back off and let them work out their probs.
2007-03-25 00:28:37 · answer #10 · answered by Torina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋