I am an 18 year old high school student (graduating this June) who has been with my boyfriend for almost five years now. Our relationship has stood up to a 1 year long distance relationship and other various setbacks, but our relationship is so strong now. We have already exchanged promise rings, and recently my boyfriend and I have been discussing the idea of marriage. We really want to get married soon (money really isn't an issue in this), but I don't know if there is any real reason not to. Anyone have any opinions on this?
2007-03-24 17:07:54 · 15 answers · asked by sjfivhm07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't marry. Not for a few more years. Certainly keep seeing your friend. But things can change. The next few years are where you become people, rather than kids. Nobody can possibly know what they'll be doing, or feeling at 21, when they are 17- humans just aren't wired that way. It may well be that you will end up spending your life with your friend, but that will mean working toward the same life goal, and neither of you can have found yours yet. Wait until you find out if you guys belong together, and it isn't just that you like each other, and have been close through school.
2007-03-24 19:52:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I got married 4 days after i turned 18. I was pregnant 4 months later. had a beautiful baby girl then 2 years later a beautiful boy. then 6 years into the marriage he was killed in an accident. i think wow, what if i waited. i would have lost out in those 6 wonderful years and 2 great kids. that was 30 years ago this year. now 5 grandchildren later i say if you love each other and that is what you want do it. my brother married his high school sweetheart and they are married 35 years. my son married his high school sweetheart and they are happy with 2 boys 10 years. it can work. but get a college degree and career. enjoy life together
2007-03-24 17:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by dune nana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One word....Yes. And....as a old fart....I will tell you why. You say you have been with him for 5 years......are you the same person now as you were then at the age of 13? No....you are not....okay so what you wanted or thought was a big deal when you were 13....now seems like nothing....or you don't even remember what you wanted at 13. You have your whole life ahead of you....and Much more growing to do.....your schooling career lots of things. From now till you are in your late twenties you are going to grow and change a lot.....so what you may think you want now....could.....and I did say could change....so whats the rush....have a long engagement if you want but don't walk down the isle to soon......make sure that you are ready..... cause the whole idea behind saying I do....is for life....and that's the goal you should try to get to when you are ready....don't become another divorce statistic
2007-03-24 17:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is best for yourself. I am 20 years old and have been married for almost a year.
I don't understand why people suggest living life before getting married. Getting married doesn't mean that you're dead..it just means you have the ultimate commitment to your partner. If you are prepared to make those vows and honor them (and your boyfriend is prepared as well) then why not? Just make sure you are financially stable and have a place to live.
Oh and one more thing, since you haven't graduated yet I'm assuming you still live with your parents. I would also suggest that you live with your boyfriend before you marry him. You never know as much about a person until you live with them. So many people make the mistake of never doing that and then when they get married and live together, they realize that their spouse has these crazy habits they never knew about and they can't live with it.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 17:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to say if your asking stranger then maybe your having doubts and maybe you should wait a bite but if you can see yourself with him 40 years down the line when you both are older and maybe fatter then go for it but if your having doubts wait awhile until your complete ready because marriage isn't a toy you can play with in Gods eyes once you get married it for ever and a marriage is a committed as well as alto of work and you have make sure your ready. Good luck and Congratulations
2007-03-24 17:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing wrong with this but think about something you
are just now starting to get out into the world, then will change
for both of you. life ,change , people, etc. just keep a open
mind , then you can do what is right down the road. but
cong. on graduated from school. good luck to you.
2007-03-24 18:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should get engaged and then take a year or so to plan the wedding. What is the rush, you have been together for 5 years then what is another year or two. What about college?
2007-03-24 17:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, You are WAAAYYY to young. Trust me..gone down that road and wished I could go back and do a redo.
You don't know what you think you know. Wait. If it's meant to be, trust me, it will be. You have the rest of your life to be married. Enjoy your youth. Travel, date, have friends and be social. Marriage should not be legal until you're 28!
2007-03-24 17:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Marilyn M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifyou both are thinkers and are responsible then any time.
If you two are planing to go to university then it might be better to wait. Most likely if either or both of you do go to a university the relationship will become less and less and finally be gone.
2007-03-24 17:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont you want to see what its like out of school? I wouldnt marry at 18
2007-03-24 17:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by urdreamgurl13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋