I've been working in France and my fiancée lives with our 7 months old daughter in Chicago, IL. Recently, she has "renewed" a lost connection with her friend male friend in Chicago and they talk on the phone and stuff. My fiancée and this guy were very close and they even had sex in the past. We have plans to get married when I go to the US! I dont like the idea of her being in contact with someone she had been intimate with(!!) i have expressed my views to her and she tells me she doesnt see no "wrong" in this because they now are good friends....am I being inconsiderate? or is this normal for me not to want her to keep in touch with this person...(I have never met this person) ...she also says he is her only friend and she needs someone to talk to....any suggestions??????
2007-03-24 17:05:21 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It sounds like your soon to be wife is getting very lonely. Not to mention raising your daughter without you there. That can be very stressful, and hard to do alone. I think you have a very important decision to make. Is this over seas job so important to you that you're missing out on the best of times to spend with your fiance and child? Is it truly worth spending every moment with out them and wondering wether this other guy will step up to the plate when you're not able to because you're not there? We all make choices, it's our choices that makes our lives what they are. Good luck.
2007-03-30 04:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that this must be very difficult for you. Does your fiance' still tell you that she loves you? Do you still feel a connection when you talk on the phone? I think trust is very hard for us, especially when we are far away as you are right now. Please believe me when I tell you that if you love her, tell her and pray that your relationship will work out for the both of you, if it be gods will. If you come back to the states and all is well and you still love your fiance' and she loves you, then congratulations! If you come back and you find out that she hasn't been honest, then please take my advice before you head to the altar and seek counseling or make sure your communication improves because you deserve that! Take care!
2007-04-01 12:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by Belinda D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill,you can't stop her ,she is an adult.you can learn to be great friends too,that way you can keep an eye on them.
i know you are in Paris now and if i were you i would also learn to have fun without her .....very healthy
2007-03-25 00:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by SoulKeeper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave france as quickly as possible...no job is worth losing your fiancee over...and you will.
2007-03-25 00:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by Therapist King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HAVE A HEART TO HEART TALK
2007-03-29 04:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, there decisions....
2007-03-25 00:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow Venom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋