I've been working in France and my fiancée lives with our 7 months old daughter in Chicago, IL. Recently, she has "renewed" a lost connection with her friend male friend in Chicago and they talk on the phone and stuff. My fiancée and this guy were very close and they even had sex in the past. We have plans to get married when I go to the US! I dont like the idea of her being in contact with someone she had been intimate with(!!) i have expressed my views to her and she tells me she doesnt see no "wrong" in this because they now are good friends....am I being inconsiderate? or is this normal for me not to want her to keep in touch with this person...(I have never met this person) ...she also says he is her only friend and she needs someone to talk to....any suggestions??????
2007-03-24 17:04:26 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This can only be bad. They've had sex before and he is her only friend. You've been abroad how long? This can only be bad. I'm sorry to say that. When my husband told me he didn't like me searching for ex boyfriends on the Internet and stuff, I had to respect that. I've had male friends and he tells me that he doesn't like me flirting with them. If they're not gay there's always a chance of something happening. If they're getting too close it can't be good. She should listen and respect your concerns. You should tell her that you want to trust her but that you're worried if this guy puts the moves on her with you being abroad and her being lonely that she may succumb to temptations. I wouldn't like it either and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-24 17:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude you have got to stop it....i am not a controlling person but my woman just cheate do me with her best male "friend" women dont always just look for six packs on men. i have a woman i work with very very interested in me because i can hold intellectual conversation. she may not be doing anything with him now but if they've had sex and your not there why wouldnt he try to get some again? granted he's not going to just ask her to , but if she doesnt have anyone to cuddle with and talk to...he could take your spot and you wouldnt even know it BE CAUTIOUS when approaching her about this but dont let her walk on you hope this was helpful
2007-03-25 00:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Shane A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are not being paranoid at all. No,I don't think you are being inconsiderate either.
The fact you are so far away and he is closer is an uncomfortable truth. I would feel like you do if I were in your shoes.
Try asking her to turn the tables. Ask her HOW she'd feel if she was far away and you and your baby were seeing an ex-girlfriend.....Maybe that will open her eyes.
Good luck!
2007-04-01 17:12:46 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tel her u jus dont feel comfortable with sum1 u hve never met b4 n that u lov eher so much n u dnt no how you could overcome this
it normal 2 feel like this dont be ashamed of it u guys hve a family and theirs nutn wrng wid feeling like this.say you might feel better jus if you met him n that its hard 2 feel comfortable wid the situation wen u hvnt n that you understand she needs sum1 2 tlk 2
2007-03-30 05:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋