Would you allow your husband a night on the town with drinks with his buddies?

Question

Even if you know he has cheated in the past or am i crazy for being upset

Answer 1

with an attitude like that no wonder he cheated!! let him go and stop being so controlling.

Answer 2

Hmm...I need more details to really answer this. Like, how long ago did he cheat? Why did you decide to forgive him? What were the circumstances? Do you know and trust his friends? My husband goes out almost every weekend (hence my being here on a Saturday night). It's not usually to a bar, but to a poker game or a pay-per-view or something like that. But, I know his friends well, and I know they like me and even if he thought about cheating on me they'd "talk" some sense into him. They know all he has to lose, and they wouldn't let him. Aside from that I do trust my husband, and I have never stopped him from going out with the boys. If he had cheated in the past? It really would depend on the circumstances surrounding that.

Answer 3

This depends on a lot of things. Did he cheat a long time ago or is this still a fresh wound?

If it is fresh he still needs to redeem himself and shouldn't be doing things like that. Sure it sucks, but he is the one who broke the trust. This also holds true for if it was a woman who cheated.

I would talk to him and explain everything you are feeling. If he acts like you're crazy, he's still feeling guilt or expecting you to just "move on" Men like that don't feel as if they've done something wrong and just want forgiveness from you so it can be in the past and done. These are usually the men that will repeat the act. The only way to make your relationship work is if he's willing to admit he is wrong and work long and hard on your marriage.

Answer 4

Ah, I nearly answered that a totally different way! I almost said why not, so long as he doesn't get too drunk, but now that I see the rest of ur question, I'd be very wary of when he goes out drinking anywhere. No, love, ur not crazy for being upset. I don't know how to to advise u on this. If u wait up for him and confront him when he gets home, he'll think that u don't trust him.
Maybe wait till he's sober and wait to see if he tells u about his night out. I'm sorry, I've never been in this situation before, I don't know how to help u.

Answer 5

No, no, and no. If he wants to have drinks with a buddy, it should be at home. He is a married to you now and he doesn't need to be out on the streets drinking. Yeah, how do you know he is not cheating again being out with his buddies?

Not a good idea for him to be out on the town drinking with his buddies. Maybe he thinks he is living a single life?

Answer 6

Sounds like you are not past the hurt from the cheating. He needs to have nights out with his friends just like you need nights out with your friends! Maybe the two of you should try to work through the past cheating thing because not being able to trust your husband enough to allow him a few hours out is not good for your marriage! Good luck!

Answer 7

I wouldn't. How do you know that he is going for a night out with buddies, instead of going to see another woman? If he wants to spend some time with his buddies drinking, why not do it at your place?

Answer 8

If you don't have trust,,,there is reason to be together if you dont have trust,
you have a right to worry, but you cant keep him on a short leash,,,If he cheats again you need to do some serious evaluating.

Answer 9

Obviously, you are still not over it and you do not trust him. You both need to get help for that or nothing is going to work. As for him going out, he is a grown man, he can do what he wants.

Answer 10

He wouldn't of been allowed back in after he cheated.