my husband cheated on me with m best friend! i found out a few days within finding out i was pregnant and now she has had twins and says they are his and is suing for child support. i have two kids with hima nd have been married seven years and one baby one the way in two months. how much child support can she get for twins and how do i deal with this stress if i have nobady to talk too? i cheated on him too but we were seperated during that time so we decided to start fresh and forgive but how can i when i beleive in my heart these are his kids? he is the only one that works and only makes 3000 grand o month and our bills total2000 grand. i dont know what to do and how to react to this unbeleivable stress!!he says he wants nothing to do with her or the kids because he wants me and our kids and she did this because she knew we were starting over and he was crying to her thinking he can trust her being my bestfriend .she already has four kidsand no support for the them from their dad
2007-03-24 16:54:31 · 12 answers · asked by best step mommy in the world 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Paternity's test!!!
Most women think it cost a lot but generally 100 buck!
But inform husband that he had better never do it again!
You cheated , he cheated, now your both even!
Ulgy as it sounds it will stabilize your marriage scene neither one of you can keep your pants on!
Sorry but that had to be said!
2007-03-24 17:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should see about going to your local family child support recovery unit and see if they came come up with a financial payment system based on you and your husband income and the other woman income and that should determine how much should be paid to her. If all else fail you might have to get a job. And the other woman might need to seek child support from the other kids father also, why make one pay and not the other.
2007-03-24 17:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the husband and the "friend?". You are married to him so you will get the first child support , sounds like he is going to be working a lot of over time to pay all this child support. Tell him he made this mess and he can clean it up, and see what he says. You shouldn't be burdened by it if he really cares about you.
2007-03-24 17:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by clbinmo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the real world, where real people, fall in love for real ....................... and one of them do something that hurts the other one........ THEY BOTH FEEL THE PAIN! In the event they try to work it out, they both learn something from it.
My point is ................ you made this mistake once and neither of you learned a thing. He went out and did it again and your mentioning that you cheated first, which suggest that you feel you two are even.
You already have deal with losing what you considered a friend. Just put all your rotten eggs in one basket and toss them out. I really can't see this relationship going any further than the misery it has already created.
p.s All the children deserve child support.
2007-03-24 17:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't count how many times this same story is on Maury...........men and women Cheating and having kids that don't know who the daddy really is and sometimes the daddy doesn't know for sure they are his. Poor kids.
Gods word says No Adultry. It is for our protection and the kids also. Most keep on cheating and you live with distrust. They can barely support one family, much less two and it is always on your mind. I couldn't begin to give advise........mostly sympathy. Definately you have stress. See if he will talk to a minister and if he is sincere and truly sorry.
2007-03-24 17:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by 4263 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need or he needs to push for a paternity test to find out it the children are really his or not. As far as how to deal with the stress, I think that the 2 of you need to sit down and have a serious heart to heart talk, and find out if the infedility is out of boht of you and see if boht of you can stay true to each other. If not then you both need to move on. Otherwise, stay together and work as hard as you can to make it work.
2007-03-24 17:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly talk this over with him. It would be different if you werent pregnant you could just leave his sorry a$$. There is a child to take into consideration now if things dont work there are always organizations that can help single mothers. Goodluck
2007-03-24 17:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by fuchetrookbies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Petition the court to get a paternity test. In NJ they are only around $90. Don't let someone get money for nothing. Besides, he did create the mess by not using protection so....if the kids are his, he better get himself another job! BTW, why don't you work at least part time?
2007-03-24 16:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by PrezStain 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off.....demand a paternity test....then either way ...resolve to raise those kids with the best life any kid ever had...love them, hold them, hug them........oh and get rid of him! You can do it....you are a strong women and I know you can raise your children to be strong, happy, productive members of society!
2007-03-24 16:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Divorce and then see what you feel like. If it where me I would abort and start over fresh with someone else. Good luck on your decision.
2007-03-24 17:02:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋