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I am madly in love with this guy (his name is Aaron) i likeh im alot and so i told him how i felt and stuff...Yea he said he didn't like me i asked him why and he said that his friends would hate him if he did. But he said if he could he would go out with me. I talked to his friends and they said that it was ok if he liked me so i asked him out again and he said he diddan't like me and it was canfusing and it hurt really bad. I ahve tryed to stop likeing him but i just cant. I dont know what to do. Please help me understand why i cant let him go and why i am still madly inlove with him when he would never love me back.
2007-03-24 16:51:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes this stuff just happens. I'm still in love with my boyfriend, but we just broke up because he doesn't feel the same way about me. It hurts really bad, but my plan is to give it some time, let myself get over it for a while, and then spend a lot of time with my friends doing things I like to do. We need to get our minds off of it, and find something or someone new to put our energies into. I hope it will work for me, and good luck to yourself. I know it's painful now but it will get easier, time heals everything.
2007-03-24 16:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by ktcougarus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not alone in your feelings for being in love with Aaron, but you are short changing yourself out of true happiness. You shouldn't go out with someone who is insincere.
It seems that Aaron has issues. He shouldn't beat around the bush thinking whether or not his friends approve of you. If you two happen to hook up, then you would be very unhappy. Aaron would be nick picking you and treat you like garbage.
Let this guy go because if you stay around with this hunk, your love for him will turn into a big, horrible mess.
Please take my advise (This is valuable)
What happens if you run into the love of your life and wasted all your energy loving this Aaron fellow?
Is that fair?
You'll be kicking yourself and end up resentful for being with such a loser. Sometimes it's just best to cut free from being in love with Aaron. He's not worth your time.
2007-03-25 00:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Agent319.007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time you asked him out he gave you an excuse that he thought would make it easy on you and you wouldn't be hurt with the fact he don't feel the same way. He was probally upset you asked his friends and then asked him out again. It seems hard now but give it time your feelings will go away. There are other guys out there that you will feel similar about and care for more that will feel the same way back. Best of Luck.
2007-03-24 23:55:54 · answer #3 · answered by April F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are insecure and desperate. If they had other things going on in their life that they care about and can focus on, they might not put all their stock into one person for their happiness and fulfillment. I think in your case you are not in love with him; it sounds like you are obsessed or infatuated with him. If he were a nice person he would not be playing immature games with your head.
If some girls actually got what they wished for and could be with the guy they think they want, I bet they would find he is not so great after all. You are worth more than that; you don't need a loser who gives you bullcrap excuses and blames his friends as the reason why he won't go out with you. I would give up on him and move on to better prospects. Time is too precious to waste on people like that. I mourn the time I lost chasing after a guy but thank God I woke up and smelled the coffee before I lost more time.
2007-03-24 23:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Dana Katherine 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not madly in love with him. You just simply gave all your power away to him. Take your power back. That simply means that you're allowing him to define your feelings and if he doesn't love you back, you can't feel good about yourself until you can make him feel the same way. Since you can never make someone else feel a certain way, don't waste the time. He was just making excuses about his friends. Forget about him and the sooner the better.
2007-03-25 00:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women go through periods where the love they feel for someone isnt reciprocated, but it sometime takes a huge hit of reality to make them see things for what it really is. I know it hurts, but you're going to have to get beyond it because you can't force someone to love or like you. I've fallen in love with guys that didnt like me back, but I eventually moved on and had relationships with guys good and bad, but love is one of the strangest things to figure out, but one of the most wonderful feelings around.
2007-03-25 00:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably think that you like this guy alot only because you are blinded by love. This guy is hurting you by not liking you but you are attracted to that. Have you ever chased a guy who liked you? Have you ever been put in this situation, where a guy liked you and you did not want to hurt his feelings so you kept making excuses of why you did not want to date him? If your answer is yes then that is what Aaron is doing. He likes you so much he does not want to hurt your feelings, because his "like" is not the same as your "like".
2007-03-25 03:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by just meeh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you ask someone why he doesn't like you? Putting someone on the spot is truly an awful thing to do. I can tell you one reason why he doesn't like you. You are pushy. That is a turn off to people. Work on that and it will help you in the romance and all other departments in life. Good luck.
2007-03-24 23:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what...I'm going through the same thing.. i don't know what you do..i guess you can just stop thinking about him and think about somebody else that you would want to go out with....BUT you can do a spell...this is real....be aware that this could lead to dangerous things and can be addicting.. light a red candle and take a piece of paper and red lipstick OK put the lipstick on then kiss the paper the light the paper on fire with the candle while chanting (kiss me (persons full name) kiss me when we meet and say you missed me but most of all kiss me) and after the fire has burnt out blow the candle and then it is done!
2007-03-24 23:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off im rllly sry and being a girl i know what you meen but it has to do with the estrogen in a female we end to hold on to things longer and cling to the hope because we are so more emotional then guys we dopnt want to lose things that meen so much
2007-03-24 23:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by a..v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋