I broke up with my boyfriend last night because he cheated on me for the 3rd time and a girl is pregnant with his baby. I am 24 and a senior and he is 23 and does NOTHING. I am in love with him but it still hurts so bad. I dont want to be with him but i cant stop crying and thinking about it. can you please give me suggestions on how i can get over this break-up?
2007-03-24 16:48:35 · 26 answers · asked by Bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It will take a lot of time, but I find it helps me a lot if I let my self cry and get it out. Try being around friends and family more so that you do not have so much time to think. Also think about how much more you have to offer someone and what you really deserve. You need someone who is on the same path as you so you can grow together instead of someone that you will be supporting for the rest of your life. It is a blessing in disguise.
2007-03-24 16:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. Is he your first real relationship? Because if he is, it's totally understandable that why you're having trouble of letting go. Even if he isn't, I understand that sometimes we just can't help who we fell in love with.. Thing is, there's no ONE true painless way for you to just forget about him.. even if he's a jerk. My advice would be, try to think of yourself first.. Do you really deserve that kind of treatment from the person you love? I've once read the saying 'the person who deserve your tears, would never make you cry' (or something like that ^^). If he loves you as much as you love him, he won't treat you like this. As you've mentioned that this is his 3rd time, I'm guessing that you forgave him the first couple of times?? It's hard to admit, but he took advantage of your feeling for him. And you have accept that he would have a new family that he have to take care of (provided if he WILL take the responsibility). Please don't punish yourself by hanging on to this guy. Cherish all the good times you both had but don't be fool into believing he would ever change.. because as much as he's not THE ONE for you, you have to accept that you're also not THE ONE for him.
For today; cry, mourn, indulge yourself in a tub of Ben & Jerry's ice cream, watch sad sappy movies... and tomorrow, wake up and greet the day with a smile. Because there's a whole world of possibilities (and hot, GREAT, LOYAL men) out there for you to discover.
Good Luck to you!! (and when you find that hot, great, loyal man who deserve your tears.. do ask if he has a brother.. I'm searching for my own 'The One' ^__^)
2007-03-24 17:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Criztalinz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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I broke up with my boyfriend last night because he cheated on me for the 3rd time and a girl is pregnant with his baby. I am 24 and a senior and he is 23 and does NOTHING. I am in love with him but it still hurts so bad. I dont want to be with him but i cant stop crying and thinking about it. can...
2015-08-23 04:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 times, you should not have let him back the first time, but is suppose emotions of the heart can overrule the head, i know how you feel though, my ex from two years ago cheated on me with 4 boys and 2 girls, yet is till loved him, i realis enow having moved on and finding my true love that the feeling does pass, its hard for a very long time at first but you just have to wait it out and find exciting things to ocupy yourself with, i bet your lovely and you will find someone again, it could be tommorow or in a month or whenever but it will happen and usually in mysterious ways, you will look back in say 6 months or a year and think why was i so upset, he was a complete looser not even worthy of my love. Hes the one whos ****** up and now lost you, if the creep ever tries crawling back to you, stamp on him like a bug, and tell him where to go. He is a looser sweetie, and one day he will realise that he has lost you forever and it will eat him up inside!
my ex came crawling back, and i told he could go and jump basically and hes a bit of a wreck, but it serves him right!!
please take my advice think about yourself, wake up tommorow, smile and say im worth a million dollars and you will one day find someone worthy of you love but not that cheating **** x x
good luck x x x
2007-03-24 17:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the tee shirts say: Put on your big girl pants and get over it. The first time may have been a mistake, but number 2 and 3 says that he doesn't love or respect you. And obviously you like playing the martyr, love has nothing to do with it. If this is the first child he has, lets hope he gets it together, cause he's soon to be a dad and has to support that child...you can do better, so just get more involved with school and your friends., and count yourself lucky that you aren't married to him.
2007-03-24 16:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by jan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what this guy is doing is leading you on obviously he wasnt all about you and hooked up with another girl if he cjeats on you 3 times he'll cheat on u 4 times being around that much pain can really get someone depressed i say just move on from thisa scum bag and find someone who loves you for you and doesnt have late night bottycall and a love child you deserve better then that
2007-03-24 17:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you did was hard – but its clearly for the best, and you’ll thank yourself later. when you meet new people and start a life without him it will become much easier – trust me. If you don’t move on then you’ll just sit in limbo and dwell on things. I hate to say it, but out of sight out of mind. Time is the best healer – but the way you described it there is no reason to stay. HOWEVER, never stop caring about him, he’s just not right for you long term. there’s no reason to stop caring and you shouldn’t try…
good luck
2007-03-24 16:55:34 · answer #7 · answered by mary n 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a therapist and find out why you think you are in love with someone who has no regard whatsoever for you. Leave him, get some help, and look for a relationship with someone who is going to be good for you. I believe that you deserve better than this. If you choose to stay with him, you obviously don't think much of yourself.
2007-03-24 16:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please lean to respect yourself more. Don't you think you deserve more than a man who keeps breaking your trust? Consider it a blessing that you've broken up with him.
I know this sounds like a cliche, but time will heal the sadness you feel right now. Surround yourself with lots of good friends and family. You're bound to find a kind guy who truly wants to be with you, and someone who will respect you.
2007-03-24 17:00:52 · answer #9 · answered by Strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love him, but do you want to keep on getting hurt at the same time? Who do you care more about: yourself or someone who doesn't care about how you feel and goes around looking for other women? I'm sorry if I may be hurting your feelings, but seriously, don't you care more about your self? Don't you love yourself? If you did, you would do what is best for YOU.
2007-03-24 16:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by miss pochacco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋