We have fun in the bedroom and try different things every now and then to keep it spicy...but if we get into an argument about anything - not even related to sex, he throws in my face the things we have done together and says I am a hoe or a s.lut for what I have done with him. I can't figure it out why he is trying to make me feel ashamed of things we do together when he's mad.
2007-03-24 16:28:37 · 10 answers · asked by nillachica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh well is emotionally abusive, and its thin line between that and physical abuse. I had an ex like that. See that, my EX. It was terrible. He would call me every single name in the book, eventually it killed the "love", and I was done. He is off his rocker, I could never understand why, but it happened. I see this as a way to empower himself when he's not at the top of the game, and it keeps going on and on, and getting worse. He needs to stop now, and he needs to recognize how bad this is. If he really cared about the relationship he would recognize that it's in jeopardy, and hopefully make the move to change.
2007-03-24 16:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his reaction to you stems from what YOU have been doing to him in the bedroom.Have you guys tried something new that a man wouldn't usually admit to doing to his buddies?If so,he could be liking it with you but be embarassed by it on the inside when he thinks about what people would say if they found out.Try asking him next time he does this and reassure him that you wouldn't tell anyone about what goes on in your bedroom.If that isn't the reason then you have what they call a sicko.A man that wants to do that stuff with a woman but dosn't want their gf/wife to be the one that is actually doing it.This would be him testing you to see how far you will go and you need to get rid of that freak asap. Sexuality is all about trust and how can you have trust if this guy is treating you like a ho for doing things with him?
2007-03-24 17:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by cs_rouge_princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have narcissistic tendencies. When you argue with him and therefore question his goodness or intelligence etc in any way, he feels the need to punish you for the "offense." The way he's chosen to punish you is to make you feel badly about what ought to be very intimate and loving things.
(this is not a formal diagnosis, just going by what my psych. proff called the "first clue." But if this is what's wrong, therapy is an option.)
2007-03-24 17:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He calls you all this things when he is angry, because he probably feels ashamed, and he grew up hearing that only bad girls do nasty things in bed. You need to explain to him that it is all right for a married couple to have great sex in bed, and that it is not a sin. If he does not stop the verbal abuse, you need to get out.
2007-03-24 16:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's an immature jerk who desperately needs to feel superior over you in some way and doesn't care if he has to crush your feelings to do it.
You have two options next time he indulges in his own private little Hitler complex: Either laugh in his face and remind him of the little proverb about the pot calling the kettle black, or walk out of the house, out of his life, and into the office of a good divorce attorney.
Come to think of it, I would do both. In that order.
2007-03-24 16:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what an ungrateful jerk!
Next time he wants to get kinky, tell him no, he'll just call you a freak when you argue again.
Then set an egg timer and tell him he gets three minutes in the missionary position and the clock is ticking.
2007-03-24 16:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by laffryot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a control freak. Simply refuse him those exotic spices next time he makes such statements. Minimise the quarels too
2007-03-24 16:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because in order for him to be right all the time he has to belittle you to get the rise he wants.Men have abused women's confidence in themselves so that they will make you feel inferior to them since forever...they always have to be right and if they can't be right then they belittle...good luck with this situation.
2007-03-24 16:50:53 · answer #8 · answered by Dodgegirl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awful. Sounds passive agressive. But definate verbal abuse. Talk about countering.
2007-03-24 16:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because he is a stupid *** jerk you deserve better
2007-03-24 17:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋