How do you know you don't love someone anymore?
2007-03-24 16:19:42 · 37 answers · asked by Mizz_couture 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I have the same burning love for my husband as i did the day i met him. But i feel like his love for me is dying. He seems not willing to work on our marriage anymore, and tells me he doesnt have to do anything, i tell him to do.
I just don't know if his love for me is fading.
2007-03-24 16:28:54 · update #1
When you can't see yourself with them anymore, when you stop wanting to do things for them because you want to, when you look at them and think why am I with you, when everything they do aggravates you, when you dont give more of yourself to that someone. Let him go if you don't...waste of both of your times. It might just be a phase, so really ask yourself, think hard about it...I know I go through phases like this, but in the end, I cant imagine my life without him. No one is perfect, everyone has quirks, but I know he would do anything for me, and what have I done for him lately, NOTHING..I have been selfish, and well just a *****. You will figure it out...if its a relationship that you dont mind picturing your life without him or her, then just move on. Let it be the past...good luck!
2007-03-24 16:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a little complex because it can be so many different avenues to tell you if he is or isn't. Marriage and commitment in this day and age is hard as hell to achieve. Everything around you says' it better to be single" down to the advertisement and the TV shows.
If you want to know whether your husband loves you or not. Ask him to look in your eyes and say it. If he says"Yes" and it's sincere then he could be just going through something.
But, if he says "yes" and he gives you a indication that he is lying, down freak. Just ask him when did it change?
Some can tell you when and why. But, don't feel disappointed if he can't. Offer him to see a counselor. if he refuses don't waste you time. It will just kill you self esteem and self worth. " start planning for the possibility he may not be around this time next year and do what you have to do to be okay.
2007-03-30 13:48:54 · answer #2 · answered by lasman37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all go through stages where we FEEL the love more or less.....both in what we receive and in what we give. Stress from work, the kids, other family responsibilities, etc. can overshadow the feelings of love at times.
But if it seems that way more often than not....and it has been that way for quite some time (say 3 or more months)....then therapy , counseling and/or a serious re evaluation is in order to get the thing corrected or addressed
2007-04-01 15:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is like a fire, it burns high sometimes, and low sometimes. That's why we need marriage, to get us through the times when the coals are barely there, until it flames up again.
But your husband is right, he doesn't have to do what you tell him to do. That is not part of marriage, that's seems like a mother-to-child thing. Maybe that is why he is emotionally withdrawing from you.
Stop being bossy, show him you appreciate him, and throw some fuel on your fire!
2007-03-31 21:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHEN things start to get boring!!! You have to rekindle the flame. sometimes you just have to break out the credit card and take a weekend getaway all planned out. Pack his bags and wait for him to come home from work on friday. but don't tell him, just call him at work and make sure he doesn't have anything planned. And in that weekend don't talk about the things that are bothering you, do it after you come back ...
prefferably 2 days. If you do it during the weekend you will mostly get into a fight!!! Good luck
2007-03-24 16:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by cattivo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you mean how you will know if he has stopped loving you?
You will know when:
What you feel becomes less important to him
When you go lower and lower in their list of priorities.
When it becomes more interesting for him to spend time with people other than you - at every possible occassion.
When your happiness, anger, sadness become less important to him than any other activity.
There are many signs - and you most probably have noticed them. That is why you felt the need to ask this question.
2007-03-24 16:52:20 · answer #6 · answered by vkaapai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you ask questions like this on the internet. I also think when you stop caring if you are with the person or not. Like they could come in the room and you feel nothing for them. It's when your heart stops believing there is any hope for a future of your relationship.
2007-03-24 16:26:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love is a choice. You stop to love someone by choice. Many people choose to stop loving because they have found something else they (think they) love; some others choose not to take the **** anymore. You can choose to keep loving and thats what most people in happy marriages do. Love is not necessarily some feeling that can suddenly disappear; it is a choice
2007-03-24 16:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Elder 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage goes through hills and valleys, times of passion,times of insolence, times of complacency. Try to jazz things up, do something new , be spontaneous. Think of the things you used to do when you first were married and try some of them again. Love hears what no other ear hears, love sees what no other eyes see, true love GIVES without questioning.
2007-03-31 04:49:48 · answer #9 · answered by mssgtmidnight1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are thinking about escape routes and other people, when the things that used to drive you crazy in a good way now just really drive you crazy.....
Basically when the novelty has worn off and you are indifferent.
2007-03-24 16:23:01 · answer #10 · answered by Joanna d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋