I’m married. I don’t have any friends, I recently moved to another state. I met a lot of good people at work. One person, in particular, I communicate with more than the others. She is a good friend and I get enough benefits from the wife. I send the friend emails and text messages. My wife flips out whenever I mention this person and wants me to sever all communications with said individual. Is she overreacting? There is no sex involved. The woman and I just goof on each other.
2007-03-24 16:14:16 · 8 answers · asked by xknyghtmayre 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
something is only innocent if it doesn't hurt someone. Your wife is obviously hurt byyour relationship / friendship with someone else, probably because she doesn't feel close to you right now. I know moving is hard and so is making new friends, but this woman is not the only friend you will ever make. Stop being such close friends with her. Spend more time getting to know your wife better and investing text messages into your current relationship, and soon your wife will feel more secure, and not care what other friends you have. P.S. did it ever occur to you that your wife had to move too, and maybe she's lonely and needs you? meet new people together, or couples... that will help you both out.
2007-03-24 16:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you're not having sex doesn't mean your wife is overreacting. She's probably just uncomforable with you giving another woman so much attention especially if she's not friends with the other woman. She has no clue what that womans intentions are. I know if my husband was doing that I would be the same way. Just respect your wife and don't get upset with her. She's entitled to her feelings and think of it if the tables were turned and that might put a new perspective on things. Try to come to a compromise. Like say you'll only talk to her at work and not outside of work. She might go for that. Remember your first priority and commitment is to your wife and not to your friends. Good luck
2007-03-24 23:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may see it as being innocent but I would respect your wife's request and sever the friendship. I am sure you would never let a friendship end your marriage. You wife has a hesitation with your friendship with the other woman for a reason in her mind. Good luck!
2007-03-24 23:24:02 · answer #3 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So how do you like the idea of your wife filing for divorce? If you're good with that, then just go ahead and tell yourself that she is overreacting. Time to decide what matters most.
2007-03-24 23:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Millie M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not over-reacting. What happens is your "friend" would be a convenient companion if you and your wife were having troubles? Not a good situation. Your wife is right. Find a guy friend.
2007-03-24 23:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your wife asked you to stop so you should do so. how would you feel if it was the other way around? it can always lead to more, why is her friendship and attention so important to you anyway?
2007-03-24 23:19:56 · answer #6 · answered by inluvwithb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her unreasonable jealousy is a clear indication that she is screwing someone on the side.
2007-03-24 23:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by endlessknowledge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goof at each other at work,,,,your cheatingggggggggggg
2007-03-24 23:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by igottadrive2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋