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What did you say? Sometimes girls just want to pick a fight and there is no right answer (for example: "I'm so fat. Don't I look fat in these jeans?"

The right answer is that you should keep your cool and a good sense of humor, and take it in a direction she is totally not expecting. "Fat? You're huge! I don't know how those poor jeans can keep from flying apart at the seams..." (but in a loving teasing way that lets her know that the question itself is ridiculous, that she's attractive to you and that you won't get sucked into her pity party game.

Have you ever seen the movie 'Cocktail'? There's a great 'turnaround' scene in there where Tom Cruise is trying to pick up a woman at the beach, flashing his smile, spinning bottles, etc. Nothing works, she seems to get more and more irritated with him till she suddenly leans in and says "Do I have the words 'f*ck me' on my forehead" in a very rude tone of voice.

Tom's reaction in the movie is actually a perfect example of how to turn around a no-win conversation. He smiles even broader, leans in and pretends to squint at her forehead. Then says "I can't see a thing without my glasses". His friendly 'frame' for the situation is stronger than her bitter unhappy one and she begins to respond to him.

Hope that helps.

2007-03-24 16:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0 0

My boyfriend has advised me the comparable element. From a women point of view, the rationalization it feels insulting is by using the fact if she isn't doing it intentionally then you definately are telling her that her character desires to alter. it would worry you, yet once you experience that she is being real in that she would not do it intentionally, then you definately ought to easily stand via her section and don't convey the way it bothers you. i'm conscious that my boyfriend thinks I additionally try this yet i can't replace what i don't recognize i'm doing. he's look after with our courting sufficient to recognize that i would not act or do something stupid with every physique else. possibly if it bothers you, ask your self why. Are you're looking after with your courting? Do you believe her? If the respond is confident, then purely stand via her section and smile. in case you experience like she's giving the incorrect message to a various guy, bypass over and introduce your self to her new "pal" (in a non-threatening way) then he gets the message and you do no longer blame her. she would be able to't replace something she would not recognize she's doing. So i can't see a real looking answer coming of this situation aside from her to no longer communicate/seem/work together with every physique of the male species . . . So possibly you gotta enable this one slide

2016-12-15 08:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by hume 4 · 0 0

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