he get mad at everything i do but when he want me to rub his feet or something elese but we do not have sex and i feel because i pick up weight but i lose 10 pound already what should i do sometime i want to leave him?
2007-03-24 15:48:30 · 4 answers · asked by keke1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's a choice that you'll have to make
2007-03-24 15:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a hard answer you probably won't want to hear...
You've been with him for 7 years. You know who he is, the way he treats you comes as no surprise. And you chose to have a baby with him too. It's a mess you've woken up and found yourself in, but the reality is that it's your mess as much as his.
You feel undervalued and unloved, maybe you want to make some positive changes and have a better relationship. You'll get a lot of people that'll tell you to leave him and move on.
I don't think you should though, unless he's abusive in some way or alcoholic (which you haven't described). When there's a baby involved, it's better to try to rescue the relationship if it's at all possible.
My best advice to you is that as the woman, *you have the power* in the relationship if you only know how to use it. Start to take care of him - treat him like a prince, praise him when he does things for you and refrain from being harsh or negative. Start to make him feel like a hero and in most cases he'll start acting like one. Maybe you can save your relationship and even get him to start acting like a man (it's high time he married you and made the baby legitimate).
I hope it works out for you, and especially for the baby's sake.
Good luck.
2007-03-24 23:06:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You do not say a single positive thing about your relationship with your boyfriend. You are not married. You do not feel loved. You do not even seem to love him. He is not setting a good example for his child. There is no reason to stay.
Just make your plans for supporting yourself and your child. Go find out what you will need to do to collect child support if you are not getting it already. Get involved in something positive. Take a class. Art, computers, parenting, anything. Just to learn something and start to connect with some people. Go to church. Churches are full of people who believe in supporting one another and will help give your child a solid foundation. Seek out the most positive people you know.
And talk to someone. A minister, a counselor, your mom. Once a week for an hour about the things that matter most and how you are going to work to make things better.
God bless.
2007-03-24 23:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Millie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want a help mate, he wants a servant. Unfortunately this happens when young people have children together without making any commitment. You have the choice of staying or leaving. Make the best one for you and your baby.
2007-03-24 22:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋