who to turn to if your parents or best friends wont except the fact that you are gay?

Question

ive been 18 for a while now and i want someone to know im gay but i know that if i tell my parents or my friends and relatives they will cast me aside. My co workers would be the same way who should i turn to i get depressed more and more as days go by, im loney and have nobody talk to and i hate having to live a lie everyday and act like somebody im not is there anybody out there that can help me?

Answer 1

Its a hard thing you're going through right now. I believe that honesty is the best policy. Coming out as a gay man or woman, is life changing. Start with friends, you'll be surpised by how many already know you're gay, or at least suspect of it. They'll appreciate that you trust them, and like them enough to share something so important. They'll also appreciate the fact that you aren't lying to them. If they don't appreciate this, or if they do cast you aside... They weren't very good friends anyway, best they're out of your life.

As far as your parents go, if they love you, they love you. They will most likely be upset, because its hard to process for them. They want to protect you from a hard life, and for most gay ppl, it is a hard life. Its often lonely, and dangerous (hateful people, drugs, diseases, heartache) and no parent wants to consider their child going through that. It make take time, but every kid, gay or straight or bi, goes through a time in life when they discover who they are. It takes a lot of learning. Buy books, and be honest.

Chin up, because it will feel so good to be honest, and I promise that you'll be shocked at how many people won't cast you aside. You'll probably lay in bed, and cry because you'll find out how many people love you, and how much they do love you. Hope it helps... I really don't have an answer. Best of luck.

Answer 2

You have to move to a place where gay people are accepted just as good as anyone else. This may be a bad world but alot of people still don't care about ones sexual orientation. There are plenty of people you just have to look in the right place. You always have a friend in me if you have no one else.

Answer 3

Move to a gay mecca or a larger city.
save up some money and just leave them all behind and start a new phase in your life you'll find bathhouses in meccas and you can also cruise. I would also suggest getting a gay.com account or myspace and specify that your gay.
Also I think you would benefit going to a gay group.
time to get a rainbow flag and wear it proudly !!!

Answer 4

There are groups online, but almost every town has an enclave of gay folk nearby. It's a matter of asking around.

Don't let yourself feel alone sweetie, there are people just like you out there. :-)

Answer 5

strike out on your own cos thats what i had to do havent seen so called family for the past 6 years

Answer 6

I don't condone the gay lifestyle but it is not my job to condemn either. When you have no one else to turn to and I'm just assuming you are a young man - turn to God - All of our answers are with in His word. I don't know your name but God does and you will be in my prayers that God will someone be able to help you with your problem. He loves you and where you can not trust a human being, God you can trust - look up young man that is where your answer lies.

Answer 7

i think you should approach,I'm sure your mum and dad wont like the idea,but hopefully they will understand.LOVE goes a long way get out of that closet now

Answer 8

Turn to shopping!

Answer 9

sometimes the best person to talk to is a complete stranger.

Answer 10

THAT'S SAD. YOU COULD ALWAYS LIKE WOMEN AGAIN, YOU KNOW.
; )