When I met my husband, we had both decided that we didn't want children. We've been married for about six years. For some reason, off and on for the last two of them, I've wondered what it might be like to be a mother. Now I'm sure that I would like to be a mother. How do I tell my husband that I've changed my mind? I'm not even sure what he would say.
2007-03-24 15:12:22 · 16 answers · asked by ~*White Light*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um, I worry because this a big deal. We both decided we didn't want kids. This kind of thing can kill a marriage if one person doesn't feel the same way as their spouse. I don't want that to happen.
2007-03-24 15:36:49 · update #1
You just need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel and that you've had a change of heart. If he loves and respects you he will listen to what you have to say. Who knows, maybe he's had a change of heart too, and just doesn't want to say anything for fear that you might be upset by it.
The only way your going to know how he feels is to sit down and talk about it.
2007-03-24 15:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, that's a part of marriage! I thought you were going to tell is you wanted a divorce or something. Sister, you are in an ideal situation. Talk to your hubby. Be honest and voice your heart's opinion. He loves you, and who knows he might have changed his mind too! I look forward to hearing about the child! Oh and one other thing: Be sure he didn't agree to that because he cant have kids! It would be ashame to make feel hurt about that! If he can't then consider adoption.
2007-03-24 22:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel, I am surprised that you have to think twice about what you say around a man you have been married to for six years.
If you want to stick with your old opinion, you could introduce the idea of adopting a child and see were that leads.
Maybe then he would be willing to try to have a child after.
2007-03-24 22:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by kook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is thinking the same thing, that he wants to be a father. I was the same way. We were 6 years into our marriage when I had our son. He is my everything. You really don't know what love is about until you share a child together. Just talk to your husband.
2007-03-24 22:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him, but don't be upset if he still doesn't want children. If he doesn't, and you want to stay married, you will have to agree to stay childless.
If you feel that you really want a child and he still doesn't it may end your marriage. Sorry but that's true. Having a child is a big change of heart.
Hang in there and I wish you the best.
2007-03-24 22:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do tell him. After 6 years, he may have changed his mind too and wondering how to tell you
2007-03-24 22:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Elder 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just flat out ask him! "hey, do you think it would be fun to try to have a child? I know we decided not to have children, but, i am thinking i really want to know what its like. and i really think i would love to make a beutiful baby that we can call ours!"
all you can do is ask!
2007-03-24 22:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by jiggamaboo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he really loves you and cares about your feelings he'll say yes. But make sure that you have enough responsibility and resources to care for a child.
2007-03-24 22:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by ghost 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just ask him if he still feel the same as he did years ago about having children.
2007-03-24 22:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by DOT 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him, this is important! Read the novel Baby Proof, it is funny and deals with this very topic! I just read it!
2007-03-24 22:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by SZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋