how can i politely tell him to move on with his life.i just want to be friends and thats all.he does help me out with things around the house because i have severe arthritis in most parts of the body.but i can't get him to understand that i don't want him for my bed partner i don't need anyone right now.i really don't.please help me
2007-03-24 15:07:09 · 7 answers · asked by TRUE OR NOT 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
put your foot down and tell him we are not married i appricate the things you do to help me but there is nothing here anymore you need to move on with your life
2007-03-24 15:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by finding someone to assist you around the house. If he thinks you're "still married," he will find every opportunity to see you, including helping you around the house and being "your friend."
Be honest with him. Tell him that it's great that you've been able to end your marriage amicably. Tell him that you need some space so you can adjust to single life, and you hope he understands. Tell him you appreciate how helpful he's been, and that you're managing your household chores. Finally, let him know that the constant contact isn't good for either one of you. You both need to find situations that will make both of you happy.
You have to be independent without him. Unless you do, he will always find a way to be around you and feel needed. See if the social service agency in your area or a non profit group can help you find someone to assist you around the house.
2007-03-24 22:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want him to be your bedmate, then you should probably discourage him from coming to visit as often as he does. Have someone else help you out around the house because right now I think you might be unintentionally leading him on.
Tell him that you appreciate his help but that you think you're giving the wrong impression; you divorced him becasue you didn't want a romantic relationship of any kind with him, and that at you're not interested in acting like you're still married when you aren't.
It sounds like a touch situation; best of luck
2007-03-24 22:20:02 · answer #3 · answered by megan_of_the_swamp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to cut him loose completely cause he probably thinks since I'm doing something for you you can do something for me your just going to have to hire some help around the house or ask your family and Friends for a little extra help
2007-03-24 22:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by crissymo7484 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice to you is.......... to kindly sit down and talk. If he still thinks your married to him tell that fool to go to counseling. I'm just kidding! So just talk and tell him you know we have had some great times, but I think it's time to take a break.
Good Luck Girl!!
2007-03-24 22:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop letting him in the house and in your life.
2007-03-24 22:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
show him what u do with those fresh new batteries
2007-03-24 22:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋