Ok my husband is a truck driver, and is gone for weeks on end. He is supposed to be home every 2 weeks. Well he has been gone 3 weeks now, and hasn't even been driving (working), he spent the night out of state at his brothers house. That's all fine and dandy, but this is his fifth night in a row at his brother's. His brother's girlfriend, and her roomate their live in sitter have been drinking every night. He doesn't answer his phone when I call him over there, and he doesn't return my calls. His brother called me his 3rd night out there and said he gave him some nyquil cause he wasn't feeling good, and passed out and he decided to call me and tell me so I would get mad at him again. That just seems to fishy to me. He still isn't sure when he is coming home now. We have been together 8 years this month, married for 5 and have split up twice, both times for about 6 months. We barely just got back together in october of last year. Things of course were great. What do i do? I love him.
2007-03-24 15:06:14 · 9 answers · asked by Always confused! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In response to debi....I live in california and his brother lives in utah so no that would be out of the question. Also it's not his real brother it is his dad's girlfriends son of 15 years, he just calls him his brother. His brother, calls me his sister and says he loves me and would never let anything like that happen but I don't know. I gave him an ultimatem today. I told him from now on when he goes through utah I do not want him stopping at his brother's or he can just stay gone, he replied by saying I don't know what to tell you, he swears nothing is happening, says his truck was in the shop, and that he has been sick even went to the hospital to get proof for his boss, and will show me the same papers when he gets home so I know he isn't lying. Sure he could be sick but that still doesn't mean he is being completely truthful, right?
2007-03-24 15:22:36 · update #1
You may love him, but it doesn't seem as if he loves you back. At least he doesn't respect you enough to act like a married man. When he's working, of course he has to travel. But then he should come home. A couple days with his brother? No problem. More than that? Why??? It sounds as if he is drinking and maybe doing drugs and messing around with those women! It also sounds as if he doesn't love you much. He should be calling you every day while he is gone. A loving husband would. When he finally gets home, sit him down and tell him this kind of behavior is not making you happy. If he loves you, he will not do this again. Tell him this is his warning: if he does, you will be divorced and gone before he gets home the next time. Honey, he doesn't sound like a good, loyal guy. You really deserve better, you know. Have some self-respect and make him come up to your standards, or cut your losses and go find a good guy.
2007-03-24 15:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your hubby would rather be anywhere than at home with you, and that should tell you a whole lot about the kind of relationship you are in. My advice is to get out and cut your loses before it gets any worse. I know that sounds terrible, but it's just my honest opinion and that's all I have.
2007-03-24 15:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can love the wrong person, and no matter what you do, you will hurt. You know the right thing to do, now you just have to do it. Think about your happiness and just write down the pros and the cons of staying married to this man. It helps me when I have a big decision to make.
2007-03-24 15:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it be possible to just "pop in" at the brother's home?
Honey, I think you know what is going on and really wish it wasn't. My advice, pack his stuff, deliver it to the brothers and change the locks.
Life is too short to be married to a cheating man.
2007-03-24 15:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him he no longer has a home to come home to. He's making it obvious he has no problem staying gone anyway.
2007-03-24 15:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't take nyquil, he was drunk, and he has a girlfriend he sees at his brother's house. Yes, file for divorce; he is a rat.
2007-03-24 15:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by supertop 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to shape up or SHIP OUT! I'm serious. What he is doing is wrong and you shouldnt tolerate it.
2007-03-24 15:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you know the answer to this. you just don't want to face it.
2007-03-24 15:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would definately be checking into it
2007-03-24 15:10:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋