My Friends are bothering me lately..?

Question

So, last night, Shelby called me and asked me to go to her house. I get homesick really easily and so I said no. Then my other friend Elizabeth came over to her house. They're kinda bossy and so I tryed to be nice to them while saying no, but they were trying to force me to go. Then they threatened to hurt me when we see eachother at recess if I dont say yes, then i tryed to explain to them that you cant force people to do stuff. Ugh, They're getting way out of hand now. Theyre' trying to control my life, basiclly! I dont know what to do..

(and im in 5th grade, thats why i have recess if you guys were wondering.)

Answer 1

If they were your true friends they would understand that you need you "own time".But,it sounds like they are being bullies. Tell them how you feel and that you want then to stop threatening you.If they get serious,don't be around them.Be around people who care about your feelings.

Answer 2

If you do not know what to do then you are already allowing them to control you. Friends for one do NOT Threaten to hurt the other because they do hav other plans etc.instead thats called BULLYING which has nothing to do with Friendship,being a Friend.If It were me I'd just cut them off for would know do not need Bullies in my life and if they were to threaten me at Recess at School would Stand Up to them for as soon as they wouild attempt to strike or strike would Report for what they are doing is Serious Business and to strike someone is gainst not only School Rules but also the LAW. But Bullies selom follow through-If You Stand Up To them for they feed on weakness - if YOU SHOW then Weakness then you will be their Victim and they'll make your life miserable and that is Why NOW is a Important Time For You-to Stand Up For Yourself and Claim Your Right to Make Your OWN DEcisions for No one (unless adults of Authority like Parents,Teachers and the like) has the right ot control you ESPECIALLY NOT another Kid.Besides if you allow this kind of Behaviour towards you now you may very well be establishing a life pattern for yourself-to always give in to bullies. Bullies are found everywhere some see the wrong of their ways and stop , change BUT unfortunately some do not but grow into Adult Bullies and then prey on the weak in the workplace even. You show maturity by recognizing what they are doing is wrong and that people cannot force others since the Constitution and the Bill of Rights gives YOU the right to make your own decisions and to live without fear from bullies. Now Show Your Strength and Tell Them that They Cannot Possible Be Friends-Friends are Fun to Be with -its not fun anymore when they threaten to hurt ,even in fun it is just plain wrong. If they continue trying to BULLY You then tell your Parents and if they attempt to Bully tell the Teachers?Principal. The parents should know and put a stop to this behaviour for am sure parents would not want their children to be this way and bullying is taken very serious in schools-simply not tolerated. Be strong ! Chow

Answer 3

Everybody gets homesick when we're young. The only way to get over it, is to go and face your fears.

Tell yourself, if you get homesick, you can always leave and go home. Tell your parents about this first and tell them how you get homesick and be sure they can pick you up if you call them.

GO! You will be missing out on a lot of fun and good memories if you stay hidden at home.
Start building good fond memories now and start going.

You will no longer be homesick in no time. It goes away fast. As soon as you have a good time, you will not get homesick.

I promise!

Answer 4

That's just wrong! I hate it when kids think everybody has to do what they like to do. You don't have to be afraid of them, whatever they say they're going to do is all talk, they'd get in big trouble if they even tried to hurt you. You need to drop them and hang out with friends that are going to treat you the way you should be treated. That's no friend when they gang up on you like that! Good Luck:)

Answer 5

Well seems they arent your friends in any matter cause if they were they would respect you when you say no....Dont ever let people make you do something you dont want to...If they even touch you at recess you will need to report it to your teacher or the adult there with you...

Good Luck~

Answer 6

Tell them that u don't like how they make u do things. If they're good freinds, they'll say sorry and lay off u 4 a while, if they keep at it, get some new freinds that treat u better =)

Answer 7

um what grade u in??? recess ended like in 6th grade. jk. but not rly. well ur friends are mean and snobby and u need to get some new ones who dont care if u dont come over to there houses or not.

Answer 8

well if you dont want to go dont go Its your choice no one owns you and if they get up set and start talking trash then just stop talking to them for a few days dont let any one ever walk on you if you do it just once then there is never going to be an end to it so Just make a stand now be your own person

Answer 9

Sounds like you need some adult intervention. Do you have a parent or a teacher you feel free to talk to? Talk to a teacher or principle, these so called friends do not sound like friends to me....get some adult help!!
Good Luck to You!!!

Answer 10

Well then they are obviously not your real friends kick em to the curb and find some real friends. Ive been through it before and i found out they were not my friends so i kicked em to the curb and got some real ones.