my 13 year old son is full of rage and uncontrollable.?

Question

he lives with me and my four daughters and has no positive male role models, he sometimes gets very loud and yelling when he doesnt get his way, and very threatening, and abusive to his sisters, and he trys to run away and sometimes does leave and returns later, what should i do?

Answer 1

you need to sit down with him and have a conversation. no screaming or threatening, just a conversation about his behavior. ask him why he does what he does. ask him what he would like different. ask him why he's so angry. you just might be surprised.

Answer 2

He needs a male role model. Find a family friend, uncle, something! Have them over for dinner or something. Set boundaries for your son. The way he treats his sisters and you are the way he will treat significant females in his life some day. It's domestic violence. ABSOLUTELY not acceptable. Tell him he's loved and that you have nothing against him, just his actions. See if the problems run deeper that what you see. Talk to his teachers and his friend's parents about when you aren't around. Talk to him. The big brothers program may help him get a role model. Ask a counselor for help, there may be something wrong with him. It is not acceptable for him to continue this way. And detrimental to your daughters if that is how the male in their life treats them.

Answer 3

He NEEDS a male role model. He's not a little boy, but not yet a man. It is very important at this age for him to spend time with adult men to learn how to be a man, and how good men treat women and girls, how they let off steam, how to manage his physical and emotional changes as he goes through puberty.

You have several options for providing male role models ....military school, which will enforce lots of discipline, Big Brother programs, church (if that fits with your beliefs), enroll him in a good martial arts program where they teach self-control, respect and discipline, or perhaps a friend or family member could help you out.

Hope this helps...good luck to you all.

Answer 4

Did something happen? Did you get divorced? Did his father die? It really may not seem likely, but what happens to parents affect their kids. And don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely not blaming you.
I suggest you seek help. He clearly has a hard time coping with his anger, and this actually is common. Although, not many kids go to such extremes as your son. Try a school counselor. They're free, and if that doesn't work, maybe try therapy. Good luck. I hope you both sort things out cleanly.

Answer 5

It's too bad that his father is not around. I don't know why he is acting that way, so I can't answer. Maybe you should take him to a counselor (psychologist or psychiatrist) to evaluate him. He may not like the idea of going, but you should insist. Being able to talk about one's feelings can help a lot. You could also try talking to him.

Answer 6

my older brother is that way and has been for quite awhile and now it is to the point where it scares me. i warn you to get a therapist immediately because now my brother is to the point where nothing helps yesterday he punched the side of my head and nearly pushed me down the stairs and he never would have done that five years ago. please do yourself, your daughters, and him a favor and get him some help. 13 is a very young age to be so angry.

Answer 7

Punch him in the face several times.

Answer 8

Have you tried counseling?? Maybe military school is the answer.

Answer 9

"threatening, and abusive to his sisters" ANGER MANAGMENT now!

Answer 10

strap him to the wall