he lives with me and my four daughters and has no positive male role models, he sometimes gets very loud and yelling when he doesnt get his way, and very threatening, and abusive to his sisters, and he trys to run away and sometimes does leave and returns later, what should i do?
2007-03-24 14:45:41 · 8 answers · asked by Robin 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I'm not sure...but if you figure it out, let me know!
My 12 year old son is getting to be the same way. Only he DOES have several male role models. Including his father, who happens to be a very gentle man!
2007-03-24 14:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Meg M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely take him to a therapist, but having been to a few myself as a teen I would try to talk to them yourself first to see what their beliefs are and how they practice (some are just wanting to give meds) I would say this is pretty normal at his age. I remember being angry a lot then too. Other things to consider: how are things at school? what kind of friends does he have? Is he being picked on? Could he be frustrated because he is coming into puberty with questions that he would like to talk to a man about and cant? Consider one more thing, it may be hard but you have to face it, is there a possibility that he is using or is thinking about using drugs? I felt frustrated in my early teens and began using drugs to have a good time, to fit in and to escape my difficult home life. I would first try approaching him about it, but be sure that you are VERY careful to do it in a non condescending way that shows you are interested in him and that you love him. Maybe try doing something with him that he enjoys just the two of you on a regular basis. In time this may help him to open up to you! good luck!
2007-03-24 17:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by psalms912b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im having the same problem with my 13 yr old. all i can do is set up counseling and try medications. but i am sooooo tired of everybody talking about him BUT no one can tell me exactly what to do, all they say is im not doing anything about it. which is bull, i have had this kid in counseling and seeing psychiatrists for years. they medications didn't work, he has been on 10 different meds. non of them worked. so i took him off, now i have to put him back on, his teacher thinks the meds are going to fix everything, i am sooo depressed, i feel like i have no control over my own life. AN NO ONE CAN TELL WHAT TO DO.
2007-03-27 02:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cornell is Hot! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too have a 13 yrs old boy too. and I am single
my son is not uncontrollable. I had always talked to him since his early years about what I expect of him, how he should be doing in school and home, well, in short I always talk to him about every thing -of course in adequate subjects and using the right words - but he knows what is expected of him in regards to the way he talks to me and behaves in our surroundings.
So my advice to you is talk to him about everything and above all LISTEN TO HIM, be aware of everything he does, you as a mother are allowed to "snoop" around his life, know his friends, you need to get INVOLVED in his life so you know what is the problem..
2007-03-24 14:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by Pi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw him in Juvie. Send him to boarding school.
2007-03-25 10:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him to military school, he needs a good @sskickin and to be given a dose of reality
2007-03-24 14:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to a therapist
2007-03-24 14:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
strap him to the wall.
2007-03-24 15:20:24 · answer #8 · answered by speedy >>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋