why are women too insecure to date a handsome,,smart,,and respectful man? I have noticed that a man who treats a women with respect,, is not appealing to women..
they rather preffer a @sshole ,,who's disrespectful and annoying....
I dont get this... is it because women are scared to date a man who has a higher iq than them..or do they just enjoy loud ignorant men?
2007-03-24 14:35:07 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
That may be with stupid woman, but i for one am not one i want a intelligent man
2007-03-24 14:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Parachutes 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because intelligent men are so rare that the odds of recognizing one is about the same as recognizing a Loggerhead Shrike (which, in case you were unaware, is on the endangered species list)...?
*grin, kidding, of course* (though the bit about the Shrike is true :)
Now... open up those big brown *genius* eyes of yours, and make a few more observations. Regard those around you... do you see men with loud, ignorant women? Of course you do! IQ has little to do with life choices, and learning in relationships. The smartest folk (or at least those with the label of a high IQ) are not always the most emotionally intelligent people around.
Some people like loudness and ignorance... though I doubt they'd use the same descriptors. Some have been hurt, abused, and through the course of their life learnings come to expect shoddy treatment as their due. Intellectuallizing what is felt rarely works, however, so that whole IQ bit rapidly becomes moot. Check out the Emotional IQ...
Now... back to you. A wee piece of advice... (and this comes from a kind and gentle part of my heart, so it is NOT meant to offend... though how you take it is indeed YOUR choice)...
Do not EVER drop your IQ in conversation... and please do NOT ask your date what her IQ is... this is very off-putting. It is only ONE bit of you, not the entire package. The same goes for her as well. And (I must add) some men (no matter how intelligent), are really intimidated by intelligent women. Are the numbers really that important? Focus in on something else, sweetheart!
Intelligent men, I welcome. Arrogant men, I ignore. They go in the same bin with the @rseholes.
2007-03-24 15:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mikisew 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many of the answers to your question have been regarding your comment on intelligence, but I think that the way you treat women is what you're really getting at. The higher IQ comment in the last paragraph was probably just your venting frustration, I'm assuming.
Maybe you should re-examine how you define respectful and disrespectful behavior, because they might be perceived differently by others.
Also, a lot of women actually like being degraded. When rappers refer to women as b*tches and hoes in their concert, the women in the audience actually cheer louder. Not saying that you should try this though.
2007-03-24 15:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain Bro. Most women say that they want this and that in a man but when the rubber meets the road they pick the two-timing slick talker with no future. Women equate that danger to excitement. A stable man to them is seen as boring. They'll use excuses like "he's too nice and etc.." I lucked out my woman now has been through the dumbness and now knows exactly what wants. She gave a nice guy a chance and found out that the fleeting "excitement" does outweigh a nurturing relationship with a skillful lover. Hang in there one of them will come to there senses.
2007-03-24 15:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by Inquiring mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wondering, Genius, how do you know a woman's IQ without testing? Or is that a prerequisite to all your dates? An IQ test followed by dinner and a movie. Wow.
FYI, women are not intimidated by intelligent men, but they are bored by arrogant men.
Oh and by the way, Genius, prefer is spelt with only one "f"
2007-03-24 15:23:52 · answer #5 · answered by jigfam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you knew me you wouldn't have written any of that.....If a man can't hold an intelligent conversation then its out the door. It is sometimes rare however to find that handsome, intelligent, respectful man. I wish I knew some that where...... And personally if a man can be respectful at the same time as challenging my questions and theories then he is a man worth keeping. So trust me darlings of the world if you find a man who truely is like this keep him.
2007-03-24 14:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by scarletfangg 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Funny you should ask. I like intelligent men. I have the same problem, men don't like women with a brain, they feel intimidated. I think more men dislike intelligent women than women disliking intelligent men. Find an intelligent woman and that should take care of the problem, right?
One thing that attracts me to a man is his intelligence. Most educated men also take good care of their bodies and weight control, and that is a must. They also are better spoken. Well, I don't think I am much help, am I? You might try to meet women at the public library or the college library.
2007-03-24 14:44:33 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Oddly enough, I've never found that my intelligence prompted insecurity in any women I've dated.
But then again, I neither consider it something that makes me 'better' than anyone else, nor flaunt my Mensa membership card before anyone who'll look, expecting them to swoon with admiration.
Be really intelligent, and learn from your mistakes...use that intelligence, and get to *know* some good people and appreciate them, rather than being so full of yourself that you think allowing someone into your presence is "treating them with respect"...and please, by all that's holy, apply some of that vaunted intelligence and learn the difference between someone being intimidated, and someone being utterly nauseated by and disgusted with your arrogance and immaturity.
2007-03-24 17:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by tantrickster 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have found the same trait in men. I have scared many a date away by using words with three syllables. Some women want a fixer-upper, who knows why.
2007-03-25 11:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by letaican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We prefer men who are ignorant and smelly to a man who thinks his ***weighs a ton and the other half can't be weighed. I find you disrepectful and annoying because you have placed all women in one catagory: stupid. I love respect but not if I costs me my autonomy. No man tells me what to do and/or what to wear. That's what I've seen out of intelligent men. They want a trophy. We want a man. Not need, want. I have never heard of a man who said he was handsome, who the hell are you? If you are so intelligent why haven't you surpassed me in answers points???
2007-03-24 14:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Women don't PREFER the @sshole. Respectful men are few and far between. I don't think I've ever met one. I just aim for the lesser of 2 evils.
You can have an high IQ, and still be emotionally retarded! No one is perfect.....I repeat NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!!!
So, do you want to go out sometime? lol...
2007-03-24 14:53:52 · answer #11 · answered by . 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋