My gf of about 4 months cheated on me while she was on vacation for 3 weeks.
Before she left we really said we loved each other. After talking a bunch her first week away she comepletely ignored me and I knew something was wrong. The worst part was she came home she acted very cold and posted an internet blog joking about a "fling" and with pictures with many guys. I got mad at her because I thought she was just being insensitive, and we talked about breaking up. At that point things suddenly relaxed and got so much better, maybe too much, because then she slipped out the truth.
After telling the truth, I was mad but tried to be understanding. She cried and apologized, but she wouldn't take down the blog. We didn't break up at then, but soon after I wrote her a bad email and we broke up. We both apologized and we will meet today to make peace.
I really think she has acted terrible, but I still want to be really nice to her...i was always so good to her. Am I being too nice?
2007-03-24 14:34:39 · 14 answers · asked by acural7 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes you are. You don't have to be mean to her, you can even understand where she's coming from. What you have to ask yourself is "Do I want to be treated like this again?" and, "Is she truly sorry for what she did?" The lesson isn't hers alone to learn, you have one to learn here also.
2007-03-24 14:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was in that situation after only 4 months I would stop all contact with her, cheating does not require forgiveness, she obviously does not care about you enough or she would not have slept with this other guy.
You don't want a relationship where there is no trust, every time she is away from you, you will wonder if she is being faithful to you or getting laid by some one again.
Get out before it eats you away & ruins your good side.
2007-03-24 21:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Mosez 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be done with her ! Trust is gone! Be glad it was only a four month relationship!! Would you want to get more serious with a gal like this ,, say you did ,, and had kids,, then she cheated,, you would really be stuck then,, So get out NOW don't even make it a question,, You will never trust her again,, do you want to worry about her cheating all the time,, well you will.. save yourself the heartache,, ,,She don't sound like a nice person,, wow------- NEXT!!
2007-03-24 21:43:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that she doesn't take you seriously as a boyfriend. If she actually did love you she would have never even thought about having a "fling".
Be polite to her, but not much more than that. If you stay close to her it's just going to cause problems in the future for you.
2007-03-24 21:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by karma_kougar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really haven't dated that long to be so emotionally involved. Maybe you should just date and see how it goes before you decide whether or not you're in love. She doesn't sound like she's ready to settle down yet. Yes, you are too nice.
2007-03-24 21:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont treat her bad even though she deserves it but dont get back with her either because once a cheater always a cheater. If she did it onceost likely she will do it again. Show her that you dont care and just move on
2007-03-24 21:39:05 · answer #6 · answered by Star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it is. i just got out of a relationship sort of like that. i dated a guy for 3 and a half years. and we went on and off like that all the time,it was good for 1month or so and then he would just get mad and we would end up fighting again. until about a month ago when i found out that he was cheating on me with his high-school sweet heart again. so that was that...
i really think that u should think about wat kind of pain she is putting u through,and if u really want to keep on being heart or not...u need to think wat would be best for u. and knowing the fact that u love her so much it might be heard but think about it.
2007-03-24 22:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by marlee j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never hurts to make peace but don't rush into anything. Take your time and see if she is really ready for a real relationship.
2007-03-24 21:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just keep real be m,ad at her she's the one who cheated on u tell ger whats reall on ur mind and let her know that u don't care
2007-03-24 21:38:29 · answer #9 · answered by sweettea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
treat her like you mad know you have a time to cheat on her with out feeling guilty
2007-03-24 21:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by lady bug 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋