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Question

1 of my frndz is the greatest and he always helps me with everything and hes been VERY depressed and i want to help him alot cuz hes helped me through the hardest times in my life he closed all means of contact and i cant reach him at all and he keeps sayin im dying cuz of some thins and thats a suicidal thought i have tried talkin surprisin and pretty much everythign btu hes made it impossible to get in contact and it is because of his parents hes depressed
1 other friend is great but she has more than 1 best friend which i dont mind she always tells me shs here for me whenever i need her but when i do she kinda ignores me when i am happy(and i am a funny person) she talks to me and it seems she uses me to solve her own problems and uses my humor 4 herself also i dont really beleive she thinks of me as a frnd at all. shes special to me and its imposible for me to believe she's not close ive talked 2 her bout many problems but turns out shes not interested its hard to let her go

well wut should i do about the first frnd?
and the second one show should i deal with her becuase she is really a great eprson

Answer 1

well first, your friend that cut off all contact if you really can't get in touch with him then you have to leave it, he may need some time to straighten out his thoughts and be alone. But, i know its hard because im sure you love him alot and you dont want to see him hurt himself but sometimes you justh ave to let certain things be. If you can get in touch with him though the bet thing to do is just listen dont say much until he asks for it you may have to sit on the phone with him for a couple hours and listen to him cry but that may be what he needs.
For your other friend, i have the same exact problem. She never seems interested in anything i want to talk about and its all about her. People yell at me all the time because i cant let her go, ive known her since i was in 1st grade and its so difficult. But ive learned to just slowly separate myself from her and take my time. Don't talk to her about your problems even if you have to sit and listen to her own just do it but dont make yourself sound interested soon she wil lget the point and ask whats going on in your life.
I hope this helps.. =]

Answer 2

About the friend that is depressed, you need to find some way or someone that can reach him. Being depressed is a very hard thing, I've been there. You don't want to face the world 'cause you feel like no one will understand. Send them a card, flowers or something special that will let him know that you are there when he is ready to talk.

The other situation....she sounds like a fair weather friend. You know, when the going is good she's along for the ride otherwise count her out. I think I would be friendly when I saw her but otherwise I would move on. There are more folks out there that I am sure would love to be your friend.

You sound really sweet and sincere. I would love to have you for a friend.

Good luck!

Answer 3

My suggestion to depressed friend is if you cant get in contact with him and are able to leave messages just call and say hey i feel like a movie wanna come? invite him places..try to get him out of the house maybe he will see you care about him and call you back. Talk to his parents and tell him he is in very bad shape over what might have happened between them. All you can do is try because if he doesnt want to be contacted he just needs space. you could try going over to his place with a movie or something.
As far as your suppoused best friend not being there for you when you really need her thats something only you can deal with. Maybe shes not good in emotional situations, but if you break down or run outta gas thats 1 person you can call right?
So keep her around you already know you cant talk with her about certain things but maybe she will be there for you in other ways....gl

Answer 4

Someone who is depressed needs friends....friends who care and who are sincere and honest and care about them and want to help them. The depressed individual tends to lean on others for support since they have no confidence in themselves and because they are experiencing down times most of the day, they want to stay away from people, even their friends and they just want to be left alone. I know because I have suffered from depression for a long time but with God's help and good Christian therapy I am much improved. This is something you might want talk with your depressed friends about and that is getting good Christian therapy and/or talking with a minister or preacher of the Gospel. Trust me...it works. Also there is a book titled, "Conquering Depression" which is available at most book stores and it would be a good idea to get them a copy.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are dealing with a lot of tough things.
With your friend who wants to die I would strongly suggest that you talk to your school counselor about him. If your parents will really listen tell them too. It is very important that someone who is trained reaches out to him if he cannot reach out to them. It sounds like he is too deep in depression for you to reach him directly so reach out for others-useful adults.
I understand about the friends who seem to come and go. It does hurt doesn't it. There is no nice neat answer. Surround yourself with as many friends as possible so you always have someone to turn to. Join clubs, find friends on the Internet (do not go to meet them by yourself). Even best friends have lives of their own, and can be selfish and self centered. Bottom line is that your best friend all the time is you, and I think it is very cool that you are funny. If she turns to you then you do have value to her, but find friends who you can turn to too-that is real friendship.
Blessed Be.

Answer 6

Ok, I'm a little drunk right now, but...

You are concerned about this "he" (guy friend) who you think seems to be in trouble, i.e. depressed, yet you linger on about some girl friend (female friend), what does she have to do with anything?

I think you should be more concerned about this guy friend of yours that is in need of some support. I am in a very similar situation right now... He needs some form of support to pull himself out of whatever hole he is in...

I could type so much more, but if you'd like to contact me further on this issue, or any other, message me. brandonedbishop is my yahoo, and e-mail. I'd be more than happy to help.

Either way, I hope you find your answer.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I sympathize for your friend but I also realize that you have problems of acceptance. To give you a valid and helpful advice I would need to know your age. You sound very young, and girls as well as boys in their teens, go through periods of depression and insecurity, we all went through these obstacles. I could tell you stories about myself that will amaze you, yet, I came out of the storm so to speak, in one piece. I would suggest that each time you feel gloomy, talk to yourself in the mirror and convince yourself that you are too precious, too strong, and too able to let the gloom of depression play games with your mind. You have a whole life ahead of you waiting to be lived...go ahead then, and live it to its full.

Answer 9

Have you tried going to ur friends home. Show him that you are there for him because all he needs right now is for someone to be there for him. And as for your second friend I find her very selfish I dont understand how someone can be like that. If she is not there for you then she is not a friend. Good luck with ur first friend

Answer 10

i'm a little confused in all of the this but it sounds like you need to be just be there for the depressed friend maybe suggest he get some type of counseling and the unsupportive friend you just need to drop her like a bad habit there's no need to keep someone around who's using period no matter how long you've known them if they can't be there for you like you are for them then get rid of them