2007-03-24 14:24:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I would only tell if it were a serious relationship because they have the right to know especially because adult who were abuse as a child has some tendinitis they do or think and it always good to let your g/f or b/f know so at least they know what to expect and abuse adults also have a chance of abusing their spouse or children so it good to know ahead time so if you see signs of abuse coming on you can try to get that person help before it to late. Good luck and I hope this help you.
2007-03-24 14:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by randrnorman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell my g/f because I think there's a since of weakness attributed to a male person subjected to abuse as a child. I was abused by an older male when I was from 9 years old to my teens by the same neighborhood boy who was about 5 years older than me.
2007-03-24 14:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by telwidit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want them to know. Physical and sexual abuse as a child plays a major part in who you grow up to be...it helps give insight into your personality. I don't think that thats somehting I would disclose on a first date, but if I were really interested in getting close to someone, they would have to know that about me.
2007-03-24 14:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by spiffyjones86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would that even make you question staying in a relationship with someone? If you are that unprepared to accept difficult issues like that, which isn't even the person's fault, then you really aren't ready and mature enough for a serious relationship to begin with and need to look at your own issues.
2007-03-26 08:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by TechNeo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's a major part of your past and it will in some way or another affect how you are as an adult. It's better for your significant other to fully understand the situation.
2007-03-24 14:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you just met this person and you think your gonna break up sometime, dont sat anything. For me personal,i will tell it to some body i no is going to stay with me. Also, if you tell someone who, the next day you may no be going out with anymore because of an argument, they could tell other people to get you mad and upset.
2007-03-24 14:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by aml38fw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is important to tell the person who you are going to share the rest of your life with. I mean, they need to know where you came from, so they can understand why you react and behave the way you do. When something terrible happens to us, we may react in ways that people don't understand. It is better that the person who you are going to be with the rest of your life understands where you have come from and who you are because of it.
2007-03-24 14:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by ragincajun1957 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in an ideal world, but no unless you are engaged. If you intend on marriage, hopefully you have a shared unity that would allow you to delve deep within one another and come up closer...
2007-03-24 14:45:54 · answer #8 · answered by yp_vicki_nashville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its my bf, no! because it may not last and i wouldnt want him to know....my husband, yes! because I would want him to know my background and where I came from
2007-03-24 14:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Im Eric's Chic♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is still bothering you, you would have to tell your significant other in order that they would know why you react as you do.
And if it is still bothering you, you should seek counselling in order to resolve your feelings about it.
2007-03-24 14:33:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋