I have a good friend that I met at school we get along great, have a lot in common the only thing is that I am single and she is married you would not think that this should b a prob.but it is every time we make plans she has to go through her husband. For ex. we made plans 2 go 2 dinner tonight and have drinks while her husb.is out of town and he flipped out and now she is not going I was starving and I waited on her now she cannot go b/c he is accusing her of havin a b/f which is not true he seems to b controlling and I am sick of her not being able to go when we make plans its basically gettin on my last nerve I dont want to aske her to go anywhere but we are good friends we talk daily so I dont want to b mean and I just moved here so I really dont have any single friends that I want to hang out with. I am tellin you I have always wanted to get married but seeing her and her marriage gives me 2nd thoughts. Can a marriage really wk if someone is insecure like that?
2007-03-24 14:16:37 · 12 answers · asked by *sexy mocha* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have met her husband I think he has a problem with my being single and attractive so we get a lot of attn when we go out which means nothin to her b/c she loves her husband but it is a turn off
2007-03-24 14:32:27 · update #1
I can understand your confusion. And hurt feelings. Your friend needs to grow a backbone and stand up to her husband. It is him that is so insecure if he can't trust her to go out with her FEMALE friend than he needs to evaluate how much he trusts her and himself. I'm not one to get inbetween a marraige so I couldn't give her advice. But as for you maybe next time order in and rent a few movies. Pay-per-view is fun. (oh yea, and then he pays for it too :) I'm a single parent so BELIEVE me I understand not having many friends. Keep the friendship alive though, I'm sure she values it as much as you do. And maybe offer to meet her husband, maybe once he sees that you are a real female he will lighten up. Best of luck!
2007-03-24 14:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No It is fines t ge married U just need to find the right husband for u ad if some guy or your husband Is controlling dont let him tell him that u know what u want and stand up for yourself GO GIRL!! lol.. Hope this works!!
2007-03-24 14:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am married but i sure don't need my husband's permission to hang out with my friends. there is a lack of trust in your friend's marriage. if that is the kind of life your friend wants then there is not much than can be done. as for as the marriage lasting, i don't know if it can last, i have never been in that situation, nor would i want to.
2007-03-24 14:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there marriage is not a marriage. she needs to stand up to her husband and not go to him for permission to go out with a friend. All marriages are not like this. Stop asking her to go out and see if you can find some friends to enjoy time with . She needs to get some self respect and stand up to her husband or divorce him.
2007-03-24 14:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer what seems to be your ultimate question...marriage can not work if people don't trust each other. Marriage can be great...but, it's really difficult in that situation. You're friend has got it rough, just stick with her, and let her open up to you...it wil help her to talk about it.
2007-03-24 14:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about the situation.......i wonder the same thing about marriage, and all old couples seem to fall out of love (not be in love anymore) i mean they love each other but they dont seem like they are IN love dont u think?? well i think that maybe if u are aware of that problem then you can develop stable relationships. good luck
2007-03-24 14:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in where you don't belong. If their situation does not work for you, you need another kind of marriage. Besides, it is easy to judge married folks when you are single.
2007-03-24 14:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be like that- my marraige isn't. I am open and honest about what I do and that is the best way. He trusts me and I trust him. Your friend is going to get sick of it some day- and that will be it- He needs to relax!!!!
2007-03-24 14:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by hotstuff 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like her husband is very controlling and possibly even abusive, i would talk to her about it a see what she says
good luck i hope nothing serous is going on
2007-03-24 14:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by NoOneKnowsMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to put her foot down and make her own decisions other wise you have no choice but to walk away from a friendship u dont want to see go away. expalin why and how u feel about it.
2007-03-24 14:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋