I am a 28 year old woman. I have been married and divorced. My ex wanted to travel and "see the world"...until we got married. After that, he didn't care if he left Minnesota. My current long-term boyfriend, whom I live with, has no self-control at saving money, and just thinks that "some day" we will travel. For me, "some day" will come and go. And without planning and saving, travelling is rather difficult, if not impossible. I told him this morning that I was going to travel...with, or without him. I know this was hurtful (not intentionally, but hurtful none the less) but I don't know how else to convey that this is something I feel I must do. His feelings are that I should live in the "now" and concentrate on our relationship. I, however, am scared that he will never be able to travel. And I will not travel because he cannot save. Any thoughts from anyone who may have experienced something similar? I am starting to feel like it is time to move on and follow my dreams!
2007-03-24 14:16:02 · 4 answers · asked by Betsy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want to experience life. I don't want to stay in this small town (even though I grew up in a city) forever. I want to learn about other cultures and see wildlife other that what is here. I don't want to regret giving up on the one big dream I have always had.
2007-03-24 14:26:06 · update #1
Follow your dreams. You've been stuck in a boring relationship before, and frankly it sounds like you are in one again.
I LOVE travel, and so does my husband. It is our passion. We scrimp and save and go without so we can go places and experience different people and cultures. Find someone who shares your passion.
2007-03-24 14:28:08 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be one or the other, that's the problem.
Travel is very important for experience, person-hood, learning, and mature happiness. You may also only have a certain period of your life when travel is possible at all----you also may learn nothing useful or life-changing from travel done in your 60's! You will be a different person then, and may not enjoy it, and may not appreciate it like you can now.
But, being your perfect "self" may destroy your relationship. The one man you want to marry, and who wants to marry you may never be available again. However you plan your life, everyone else's life moves on as well. You can never go back and expect people and love to be waiting for you later.
2007-03-24 21:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he can't save money worries me. I would get on him about saving money for the future. If he can't save, is he spending your paycheck too? If you can save, then save your money to travel. But you need to talk to him about his money spending habits.
2007-03-24 21:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by nokhada5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is fun to visit new places, but what do you hope to find out there? is ther something missing in your life that makes you think there is somewhere better for you to be?
2007-03-24 21:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋