i have been involed with this guy for 3yrs both of us still married i filled for a divorce here, he went back?

Question

i have been seeing this guy for 3yrs, just found out he went back to his wife, or were they always together and i just didnt know about it, realy confused here he still calls me and e-mails me also should i let the wife know

Answer 1

I hope you left your husband because it was the right thing to do for you, and not for him. I would change my number, and get another email addy. Just let him go.

Answer 2

Lona, first of all why did you had the affair with him while still married, wasn't your marriage a happy one or something going on with your relationship with your husband. Either way even he is still back with his wife, it's not your place to tell his wife that the two of you are ruining their lives. Even that you applied for divorce, you don't have no say what he wants in his life. And for your information this is a bad place to ask what you need to do, people here will eat you up because you've been unfaithful towards your husband, so do yourself one big favor, read every ones respond and you will find out that they will not respect you...

Answer 3

I had a relationship with a guy for 7 months then found out he lived around the block with his pregrant wife.

I let him know it was over but I was to weak to refuse him and it dragged on for another month.

I finally worked up the courage and went and told his wife to keep him away from me mostly because I couldn't resist him. She said it had happened before - every time she got pregrant and he came back to her after the baby was born. They had 4 kids and were expecting their 5th. Knocked my sails out.

She made him literally sleep in the dog house for 4 nights and I never saw him again.

Tell the wife. But be sure she is strong enough to take it or even would care.

Walk away if you can and dump him. Once a cheat always a cheat.

If he can get away with it with you, who else can he get away with?

Can your marriage be saved? Do you want to save your marriage? Are you ready to move on with out the man and / or your husband?

Answer the question correctly and you will know what to do. Otherwise you will just become a flander.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I would cut all contact with him. I would also do some thinking about whether or not I still loved my spouse, and why I cheated in the 1st place. There are always reasons why someone cheats but if you do not fully understand why, you will do it again with the next manipulative liar who wants some "free" milk from an easy mark. Perhaps the issue can be worked on with your spouse, but even if not don't mess with married people. The fact is if they are willing to cheat with you, they are willing to cheat on you whenever it will benefit them. There is no such thing as true love coming from a lie. You are in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope that you get your self-respect back!

Answer 5

You play with fire and you're gonna get burned. Sounds like you got torched. If you knew he was married when you began this "fling" with him then you got what you deserved. Ya sure calling the wife is a great idea, like she doesn't already know he's been screwing around? You can bet she has known for a long time now. Use it as a learning experience and stay away from married men!

Answer 6

Let the guy go and just move on with your life... You will be soooo much better off without him in your life hurting you the way that he has. The best revenge is letting go and living well without him.All he did was use you and hurt you and now you know better and you have learned from it. You will be much better and wiser for this. Tell him to stop calling and bothering you or you will let his wife know about what happened then i am sure he will stop. Also change your phone number to an unlisted one if need be and change your email addy as well or block his email address to stop the emails from coming. Stop all contact with him and you will be better for that as well.

Answer 7

In the words of the simpsons cartoon...

HA HA!

Opps.. you screwed up huh? Good for you I have no sympathy.. (not even a little) You deserved what you got...

Sure let the wife know.. shes more likely to come after you rather than him anyway.. complicate yer life a little more cheater.. why not... I'll read about you in the papers no doubt... Sheesh... (oh thats right yer totally innocent Sheesh)

just stay away from me OK?

I'd say more but it wouldnt be as nice as what i've already said... and it would be blanked anyway..

Its people like you that give chicks a bad name and make me scared of em... (Oh you wanted a nice sympethetic answer? sorry i dont have one for you *****)

Answer 8

You should feel ashamed. He was probably always with her, and he's probably cheated on her before. You two used each other and ruined two families. I don't feel sorry for either of you, but I do feel sorry for his wife and your husband. You should definitely send an anonymous note to his wife. Otherwise, if she doesn't know he cheats, she might get an STD one day.Then, stay away from this guy and block his e-mails and phone calls.

Answer 9

you've been tricked into believing he left her, and he was probably always with her all along. don't see him anymore, or respond to him in any way. he destroyed your marriage, lied to u, than decided to be with his wife. revenge will get u no where, hopefully u have learned a lesson here, maybe a very hard one. he is not going to be there for u in the long run, he deceived u, and now its cost u your marriage. will not do any good to call his wife, and hurt her. she didn't do anything to u.

Answer 10

You got what you deserved girl....you actually deserve each other, too bad for you his wife has a forgiving heart, go for a single guy this time, leave the married guys alone. He made it Loud and clear to you...He only wanted you for one thing SEX, Looks like you got left holding the bag all alone...