I'm constantly thinking that my Hubby is Cheating on me ( even though i know he is not) or Thinking up
scenarios that he is and how i would take revenge.
Is this normal???
I love him to pieces
2007-03-24 13:49:23 · 28 answers · asked by Lize-May B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your insecure about yourself. Have you told your husband how you feel. Maybe you could go for some counseling. Some people have a terrible fear of being left.
2007-03-24 13:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is probably you are insecure about your relationship with your husband. I am guessing you dont communicate well enough with him and for that reason you hardly know whats going on with him and this finally compels you to have thoughts that are probably not true. You have to open up with you husband and talk. Even if he is busy and does not take any initiatives, then you have to step forward and tell him that you need some help. Once he knows that your are opening up to him, he would do the same and the conversation will last the whole night. This conversation is absolutely necessary to save your marriage. If you let it persist then the communication between you two will break down permanently. Dont panic, just take a deep breath and set your vectors. Decide that you have to take the first initiatives. Take to him and you will be successful every time. Talking is the best solution for a good relationship. Dont suffer, let him know you are having problem and he will solve it or will at least try; that will tell you that he care for you and only you, there is nobody else. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-24 21:01:29 · answer #2 · answered by jellymarrow13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is normal. I dont know your past but somewhere in your past relationships you have been let down before. Those types of relationship ruin trust for all relationships including the one you are in now. You have to talk to your spouse and let him know how you feel. If he ignores the subject than there might be a slight chance he is cheating.
Do things for yourself that better your self-esteem. Do things that make you happy and avoid getting revenge because it will drive you crazy and end your relationship. Remember love goes both ways.
2007-03-24 21:05:42 · answer #3 · answered by bob hill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Does he withhold making love to you? Does he spend a lot of time away? Does he ever tell you that he loves you? Does he have a lot of female friends? If there are any real reason why you need to be suspicious? If not, what is the reason for your insecurity?
Spend some time looking into your past and identify those times where you've felt abandoned. Maybe, old fealings are causing you to have a fear of abandonment. You'll need to make peace with those feelings or they will negatively affect your personal life.
Loving someone takes some risks. You make yourself vulnerable by giving yourself to them. Take a chance and enjoy the love that you have. Don't push your hubby away by smothering him. If you smother him too much then he will be compelled to be pushed away.
Peace
2007-03-24 20:54:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had bad experiences with guys in the past? Are you used to guys cheating on you or hurting you? If you answer yes then it's probably normal to be cautious of any guys.
It's just your way of protecting yourself from being less hurt than you would be if it caught you off guard..plus someone you love cheating on you can hurt you even more.
Hope I make sense.
2007-03-24 20:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if im honest, sometimes i do the same thing. i love my husband so much and i know he loves me too.
Certain little things he has done in the past sometimes make me think he is cheating, but i know deep down that he isn't.
i think sometimes, you just get a bit bored, and it may be that you just want the drama.
so long as you dont take it too far, dont worry too much. just dont constantly accuse, as i have heard a lot of men say that they finally did cheat because they were being accused of it so much anyway.
good luck.
2007-03-28 11:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to chill out and just realise that he loves you to pieces too. Sounds like you're scared of losing him. If you're really got nothing to worry about and no proof that he is cheating, give him a break. Just stop worrying.
2007-03-25 14:39:29 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal if you don't have anything going on in your own personal life. You should stay busy with other things, besides your husband. This way, if he is cheating, you won't be worried sick about it. That could lead to depression and NO man is worth your sanity.
2007-03-24 20:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you previously experienced someone cheating on you before? If you have, than maybe that's why you're paranoid. Or perhaps you just love him so much and you fear that he'd hurt you. You need to relax and think positively. If you love him, trust him!
2007-03-24 21:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what it is that is making you so insecure, did you have bf's in the past who cheated on you? you need to talk too your husband about your insecurities before you your insecurity ends up ruining your relationship
2007-03-24 20:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋