Me & my best friend had an argument & we just decided that our friendship just isn't going to work out because she's very jealous of me (and I'm not trying to sound conceited or anything) but she is jealous cuz she has a bit of a bad reputation but I'm known as a nice girl & people like me, whereas they're intimidated by her. Everytime I have a good thing going for me she always tried to ruin it cuz if she's not happy then she'll do anything she can to make everyone as unhappy as she is and thats not a very good friend. But I really want to start hanging out with other people & i've been told numerous times that i could be popular if only I wasn't friends with her. Well now that we're no longer friends I think this is my chance to be popular. A few popular girls have been asking me to hang out with them & sit with them in class so I feel like I'm starting to fit in. But i feel like they're only being nice cuz they feel sorry for me & i dont want their pity.How can i seem less desperate
2007-03-24 13:48:36 · 9 answers · asked by *Manda* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Join clubs. They like you or they wouldn't care enough to supposedly pity you. I don't think they feel sorry for you. Just be cool and always have a social alternative, for instance, if not lunch with these girls, then dinner with other friends from clubs that you're in. If not talking on the phone with this one, then talking on the phone with that one. Always have options. Be in extracurriculars and be on the right track to getting into a good college regardless of who you're friends with. Success and a good plan will attract friends. And don't be afraid to be friends with those girls. They like you. Feel confident in yourself and everything will work out fine.
2007-03-24 13:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and join things in school that YOU are interested in, not what the popular girls are doing. I believe the nicest and most liked people are the ones that are friendly to EVERYONE and welcome everyone. Make sure you speak to some girls that no one else is talking to. Just a friendly smile could make someones day. Get It? â¥â¥â¥
2007-03-24 20:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you choose to do, don't think you have to abandon one friend or group of friends to be friends with other people. You can have many different groups of friends, spending time with each group when you want.
If you want to hang out less with your friend, that's fine. But don't let your new friends tell you not to hang out with your old friend if you want to sometimes.
2007-03-24 20:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kristel W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u dont reli seem desperate! go for it. but dont ASK to sit there bcuz then u will seem desperate. sit a couple seats away and wait 4 them to say sumthind. chances are their not feeling pity and not doing things bcuz they feel sry for u.
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2007-03-24 20:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really sound like you are desperate.....just hang out with them and act like your regular cool self and you will be fine!! I kinda have a friend like that too...same problem, almost exactly!!
2007-03-24 21:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
popular people dont do that because they feel sorry for you it is because they like you. take your shot and hangout with them as much as you can because that will make you happier in school. forget your friend and move on and dont think people are sorry for you because they are NOT
2007-03-24 20:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by mary m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just talk to other people that you know from classes and try to get to know them beter but dont just say hey will you be my friend
2007-03-24 20:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with the flow and dont do anything that u dont want to do...good luck xoxo
2007-03-24 20:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Im Eric's Chic♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but not actin all american lke always bakin stuff
2007-03-24 20:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by tiff4elmo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋