my girlfriend jade is might be pregnant and im not ready to be a dad so what should i do?

Question

pleaqse help me my girlfriend might be pregnant and im not ready to be a dad because im only 16 and she 15 and her parent might kill em or even my parent might kill me...im still in school and if ium gonna be a dad i wont be there everyday cause i got home work.

Answer 1

wear a condom in future

Answer 2

hey scott

I think that the first thing you need to do is sit down with your girlfriend and talk! You didnt plan on being a dad but unfortunately that may now be the case. Ive found out that my ex is pregnant, and whilst a bit older than u, im still bricking myself. Its a massive responsability and something that you (and i) have little control in. All you can do is be supportive of your girlfriend, tell her what u honestly think she should do, but not be pushy or forceful. The decision will rest with her and you are going to have to decide how you will support her, and to what level this support will take.

All these people here telling you u should have used protection are idiots, for all anyone knows you did. Accidents happen, we used a johnny and it broke, then went and got the "morning after" pill and guess what....... didnt work!!! You and jade are young and it may not have been your fault, but now that its going on you need support for youself. Im sure your school will offer support in the form of a welfare officer/tutor and its important to go to them with your concerns if u are scared of telling your parents. They maybe mad initially but im sure no-one will be killed. Goodluck mate and i hope it works out, just remember that no matter hw **** life gets there is always someone else worse off!!!
LS

Answer 3

Don't worry, a lot of pregnancy scares just turn out to be that pregnancy scares I dont know why you think she is pregnant, how sure it is. Remember though, this is a baby that has your blood and your genes you decided to be an adult and have sex now it is time to face the consequences of your actions. This doesnt mean you have to raise the baby, there is no reason you cant give this baby up for adoption. I was given up for adoption because my parents could not take care of me and I am so grateful to them that they decided to take responsibility and make that decision. I am a human being and I think that I had a right to be born once I was created. I know this is hard but life is full of hard consequences and at the end of the day you have to live with the decisions you make, not to mention that one day you will have to meet your maker. I hope you make the right decision if your girlfriend isnt pregnant. Please sincerely consider what I have said.

Answer 4

in my opinion you should have worn a condom.. and if you did but it broke.. well its still both of your faults! not to say that it don't happen a lot... I'm 17 going on 18 and my boyfriend just turned 17 the other day!! i am pregnant now also.. 7 weeks to tell you the truth! I think that to even consider an abortion is wrong .. because its not the baby's fault.. its innocent! Although if you both feel you can not take care of it.. then its your choice!! But Hun you really gotta step up to the plate!! Think of how horrible it would be to grow up without a good father figure!! U might just regret it in the future! It will be hard.. and you will both have to work at it... but that baby is gonna need someone there to teach it wrong from right(would you really want some other man taking care of your child.. you never knowing how their treating it??) I wish you the best... and yes you are both young... and your parents will be really pissed.. but they'll have to deal with whatever you choose to do!! Stay in school and then work after school!! There are also programs willing to help you with your situation.. with money, the things you need and emotional things!! Just give it some thought.. and ask your parents for some advice!! I wish you the best.. think next time you choose to mess around( everyone makes mistakes.. you gotta learn from them)

Answer 5

you are 16 she is 15 so think about it! your claiming that u wont be there coz ' u got homework', 'jade' hasnt got that choice if she is pregnant and does have the baby you will have to deal with it. ur gonna be a dad so act like one. i know ur 16 but any boy can be a father but only a MAN can be a dad so be a Man u were old enough to do what u did now u have to learn the difficult way im afraid.
good luck whther she is or isnt!

Answer 6

What do you mean what should you do. I think its about what you should not have been doing in the first place. If you are having sex there are things like birth control and a rubber. To PREVENT things like this happening! Yes you are right you are to young to be a dad. She is too young to be a Mom. You should have thought about all these things before you decided to ejaculate inside of your girlfriend. Any way what's done is done so lets focus on the question... What should you do? Well if she is pregnant leaving is not an option for her so it's not an option for you pal. You may consider an abortion. If she doesn't want to then you better not be apussy and leave. My brother is 18 and he just had a child 2 weeks ago. i had no faith in him at first but he turned out to be a good father.

Answer 7

Well, I hope for both of your sakes that she is not. What disturbs me, when reading the answers, is that I have seen abortion come up and I have seen running away and leaving her holding the burden, but there is something being left out. This is a baby and just because it was not planned, does not mean it should be disregarded. There are plenty of loving couples out there that would love the opportunity to love and raise a child, even if it is not biologically theirs. There have been too many stories of pregnant teens that have left their babies for dead. Everyone has options and should look at all of them thoroughly. Best thing, in my opinion, is to have the baby and place it with a loving couple that can provide it with lots of love and affection.

Answer 8

First of all one of you needs to be mature enough to find out if she actually is pregnant. do a test or go to the doctors! If she is not then i would advise jade to get shot of you. Your 16 shes a 15 year old girl and your moaning that you don't want to be a dad because of school!what about this 15 year old girl who has been probally never been so petrified in her life, and its her that will have this baby, give birth, look after it for the next 18years. support it mentally, physically and financially. but don't worry about her, your 16 you have homework... listen to yourself! your man enough to make that baby, stupid enough not to use protection, now face the result of this. for her sake i hope she isn't but by your attitude towards it, maybe it will be what you need to make you less selfish. dont play with fire, if you dont want to get burned.maybe i seem a bit harsh in this, but thats exactly what u need

Answer 9

Its a bit late saying I do not want to be a dad As she is 100% pregnant. You where quick enough to stick it inside her.
Now you need to face reality and support her. If there is a next time may i suggest you wear a condom Not only for the girlie's sake but for you as well. Remember it takes two and if you cannot accept the responsibility of being a dad then keep your pants on

Answer 10

This is amazing.. you know you are going to have sex and still come on here and say she may be pregnant.. if you are going to freak out each time you have sex.. then how about being smart enough to use a condom or any other type of birth control. There is so many out there and she can go to the health unit and be put on the pill. Use your heads and think before you screwed up your life. I am so tired of teens on here saying help me I am pregnant.. when if you are smart enough to know how to use some type of birth control. I know people can say don't have sex.. over and over and you all think you don't have to listen to us.. cause it can't happen to you.. and guess what it can and will if you don't use the protection that is out there. Get online and learn more about your bodies. Look up STD's and see how much fun those are. Slow down and quit trying to grow up so fast.. it will come before you know it.

Answer 11

What ever you do you cannot leave her. That is the worst thing you can do. My mom got pregnant when she was 16 and had me when she was 17. My father left me and her alone. And I have never met my father. And I wish he was there to see me and be a father figure. It sucks to not have a father all of my life. I am 14. Just be there for your son or daughter. If you stay they will appreciate you. I really wish I had a father. But I unfortunately do not. I am hoping he will meet me soon. But I doubt he will want to sadly. That's the worst feeling in the world to not have a father. I cannot stress it enough do not leave your girlfriend because she will sufffer and so will your child. Please get a job. And help your new family stay together.
I hope I helped.
Good Luck.