I have a problem.. i am so MEAN!
can someone give me some "nice" lessons? all my friends are
dropping me. how can i change? i have no clue.
2007-03-24 13:39:33 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There is no such thing as "nice" lessons. You are either going to have to GET a clue or be friendless.
Don't play dumb. You know the difference between nice and mean. You just like being mean. Your friends are apparently catching on.
2007-03-24 13:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol someone said "stop being mean"... hahaha
Well, i've been group hopping quite a lot in high school, I've been a part of so many different groups that I can say hi to nearly anyone. Anyways, the thing i've realized is that if I just hang around with the people, I start to really become them, like just a few days ago I woke up and thought something, then I realize HOLY CRAP, that is excatly what my friend would say...Right now i'm trying to get back into being me, instead of being just like my friends.
The point of that, is that if you just hang around "nice" people then you will become more and more like them.
If thats not your style, then watch some romantic movies, take note on their polite way of being.
2007-03-24 20:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by adklsjfklsdj 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm how bout u start out with when friends tell a secret keep it, and or if there coming to u with a problem dont make fun of them an say ur stupid, think of sumthin u could say to help them, be encouragin to ur friends not discouragin, the bible has a lot of good ways to be christ like, and as long as ur know ur doin all u can to be the best person u can be, and friends are still droppin u just make new friends, good new friends come with time, practice love,joy,peace,patience!
2007-03-24 20:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by bettyboop344 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're past the first step: acknowledging it. The next step is to try and understand why you act the way you do. Maybe you are just really competitive and therefore like putting other people down.
Ask your friends to help you. Tell them that you want to change and ask them to tell you the moment you say something mean.
Also, think positive. Allow yourself to feel good about your progress. Love yourself. You can't love other people if you are not content with what you are.
2007-03-24 20:47:37 · answer #4 · answered by Amelie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give an example of how you are mean.
If the problem is that you are too blunt or easy to criticize, you might try holding back your opinions until you are asked for them. And even then, let others know that you are only going to speak the truth. That way folks are prepared for it.
But until I know exactly how you are "mean", that's the best advice I can give you.
Good luck!
2007-03-24 20:43:42 · answer #5 · answered by Hope W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in other people's shoes. Practice what you'd say to someone in different situations.
Apologizing for anything hurtful you've done is a must, too. Even if they don't want to be friends anymore.
Find a church to go to? A good church is all about love and doing the right thing. If Jesus is in your heart, He can help you. Despite it being a good idea, you can accept his sacrificial gift of salvation without going to church. The Bible does say you should gather with other Christians, though.
http://www.crosswalk.com/whoisjesus/1346092/
2007-03-24 21:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be more relaxed around people! you are way too intense, that's your problem. if someone does some thing b*tchy to you, then just ignore it. rather than making a scene look at her like shes and idiot and just walk it off! you'll look cooler anyway. and you've gotta suck all the poison out of your life. all of the conflict you've had with your friends, then approach them about it and tell them how you've been feeling, and that you still want to be friends. give them time to think about it, if you did something really awful to them then they probably won't be too quick to give you their trust back. good luck!
2007-03-24 20:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by sadie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you rcognize it but now just try to commit random acts of kindness compliment someone, help someone anything uber nice.
I hope I helped! Good Luck! =)
2007-03-24 20:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by pebblespunk2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing to do, is when you get the urge to be mean to your friends, instead, make fun of someone your friends dont' like.
Or... go on some meds, or something...
2007-03-24 20:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Sylvie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really all i can say if it helps at all, is think before saying anything.....it only takes a snap of your fingers for something to slip out and maybe hurt someone close to you, but it takes that same snap of your fingers to think about if its really the best thing to say before saying it.........i hope that helps atleast alittle!
2007-03-24 20:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by Amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋