Ive been gay for 1 year, Im fourteen years old and turning fifteen in November. I don't know if I should come out to everyone. The only thing im scared of is my brother my dad and other people who might hurt me. Please help!
2007-03-24 13:20:23 · 17 answers · asked by alex becker 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
come out when you are ready. when you become a strong person who does not care what people think and you are comfortable with being gay tell your family and your friends.
2007-03-24 13:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by july a 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you think it's your time to do so, then an advanced congratulations. But please do be more in tune with yourself.
Remember that things important as this should be done at your own pace.
I totally understand your apprehensions concerning your family. November's a short time away but more than enough to plan around on easing it out to your loved ones.
Perhaps you could come out first to someone who can help you, support you when you do come out to your family, especially to your dad and brother. Have a support group, one that will consist of pro-gay straight people and gay people. They may be the ones to help you make this an experience that will be much more comfortable for you.
Bonne chance.
I'm already proud of you for taking these preparatory steps. You may decide to come out sooner or later. However way your story comes out, I hope you follow your bliss.
2007-03-26 14:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by ficklefeather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't suggest coming out until your out of the house and self supportive. I got kicked out because I came out and ended up on independent living and was a ward of the court which in effect led to my actual suicide attempt.
You have to be more financially independent.
If they really don't agree with your lifestyle you can suggest they turn you over to the foster care system then you can request gay foster parents. thats what I did and lived with gay dads for a few years. It was really enlightening.
although the laws in the US are a little more antiquated than canada. If they hurt you that is assault and you can file charges then you will most likely become a ward of the state or they will find other relatives that you can live with. call the police as soon as they assault you.
We have so much time on earth. life can appear short. but it is a long time... why rush things when you can develop yourself.
To the point where you are emotionally and intellectually available to come out.
congrats on realizing who you truely are.
2007-03-24 19:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Raver Xeno 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Stay right where you are, and save coming out for when it is safer-- probably college. The streets of most big cities are filled with kids your age who ended up being kicked out by their bigoted parents, or harassed to the point that they couldn't stay. It's great that you know who you are. But focus on school and health for now. Sorry to sound like an old man.
p.s. you could seek summer internship type situations in more gay friendly places.
2007-03-24 14:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think you should, go for it. I'm gay and Ive been 'out' since 6th. I am in 9th now. It's pretty cool though. But It took a lot of my chest, tryna be someone I wasn't and making sure I said everything the straight way and making a false idenity to please everyone else. Be yourself. Maybe they'll except the real you. If they don't , forget em'. There not adding anything positive to your life.
2007-03-24 13:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by freakyboi143 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Come out of the closet with your family. They might not accept the reality in the beginning but eventually they have to accept & love you for who you are. There will always be others who will and will not accept you. Having your family on your side is of most importance. Take care!
I have a gay male friend that I really like. Although he has never confess openly that he is gay to me. I really like him for who he is: A unique individual with strenghts and weaknesses like everyone else regarless of their sexual orientation.
2007-03-24 13:39:07 · answer #6 · answered by Abby 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, certainly don't listen to that loser who posted first. It's people like him who make our world a crappy place to live.
I don't really know what to tell you. Just be yourself and be happy, that's the most important thing. And if you think someone is going to hurt you, tell a counselor or teacher at your school--or the police!! Good luck, I wish you the best.
2007-03-24 15:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would your dad hurt you? It's your life, and that's a decision that you have to make. I can tell you that most people find it easier once they have come out. It takes a load off of your mind. Give it some thought; I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
2007-03-24 13:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by JD, MAPSY 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No dont come out yet. Your best off is, not saying anything until your 18. That way, your an adult and can do as you please. For now , enjoy being a kid. Lifes hard no matter what.
2007-03-26 13:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should come out when you are comfortable coming out, and if you are scared of your brother and your dad you should not come out to them and be careful and selective with who you come out to.
Since you are 14 you are still financially dependent on your dad and you shouldn't tell him until you are on your own.
2007-03-24 14:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋