A few weeks ago i had sex with my ex (kids' father). I felt real guilty about it because i cheated on my husband who is a great step father and husband. I don't wont to lose him, but I'm afraid my ex might cause trouble. How do i get my ex to back off?
2007-03-24 13:18:05 · 28 answers · asked by Sarah Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You made the bed so lie in it. Sorry I have no remorse for people that do this. It doesn't make any sense to marry someone if your not gonna fully commit. And with your EX?? He's your ex for a reason. I'm at a loss for all these questions about cheating. Bottem line its not worth it.
2007-03-24 13:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex could not cause trouble had you not started it in the first place by having sex with him. Don't say a thing to him about backing off - just ignore any advances. If he tells your current husband, you'll have to be a grown up and answer to what you've done - you started it - don't blame him - sometimes people make choices in life but don't want to experience possible consequences - that's life. Sorry. Good luck.
2007-03-24 20:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common to break the rules with an ex. You just have to tell the ex that while it was nice and comforting to be with him again, you have to be careful, and think of the kids. If you break it off without insulting him, he will hopefully be ok. Try to make it improve your relationship with your ex, try to have a friendship, but be careful not to let the mistake happen again. Do not call it a mistake to your ex. Men do not like to feel like a mistake.
Don't tell your current husband. It might make you feel better, but would only cause problems for all involved.
2007-03-24 20:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Ang H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough Q. girl. the only thing i can suggest is 1. be forward with your Ex. tell him very directly that it's over in no uncertain terms, in person in a public place, never mind what he says back it's irrelavant he can't force you to be unfaithful. Don't leave a paper trail. DO NOT cheat again, because it's harder to cover up something that is ongoing, and you are hurting someone else. Don't tell your husband, it will only serve to aleviate your guilt and hurt him.
2. Figure out FAST why you did what you did, because if you don't fix that, you will inevitably do it again. If you get the urge to repeat what you yourself call a mistake, remember you are not only hurting your husband, but worse yet, your kids. They don't need to have their family upset again. hopefully that will be enough. If you need to, don't be afraid of getting help and support, we all need some sometimes. good luck girl.
2007-03-24 20:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm that's not a good situation. I'd just tell your husband you are sorry for doing it and do this naked and quickly give him sex before he gets too upset because men will generally forgive you if they find out from you first and if you are satisfying them. Also, cook for your husband, clean for him, you know do it all around the house. You'll keep him. And then your ex-husband won't be a factor. Oh, and don't do it again.
2007-03-24 20:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by John Luke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have limited contact with your ex and try to let your ex know that you have finished with having sex with him. Should you continue to do this, then you are going to get so deep that nothing will repair the relationship with your current husband.
This is not easy as you are in a lose lose situation.
2007-03-24 20:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by O2Phone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him and when you do the exchange for your kid bring someone else along. Don't engage in any conversations that don't involve your kid. You might want to fess up to your husband before your ex does it for you. Honesty always rules.
2007-03-24 20:21:43 · answer #7 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should have thought of that be for you did it ,sooner or later he well find out . but for the time being don,t piss your ex off just tell him it was a mistake and to please not to cause you trouble . but be ready ex husband well cause trouble and ex wives do to. all i can say really you did this to your self and it well sooner or latter back fire on you
2007-03-24 20:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be silent and live with whatever consequences arise.
I feel sorry for your husband.
You have no reason to communicate with your ex other than things pertain directly to your shared kids, so keep it that way.
You might want to see a counselor.
2007-03-24 20:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should be ashamed...you cheated on what sounds like a good man, and good step father!! Break it off with your ex, once and for all.
2007-03-24 20:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by Abby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋