How many women on here will admit they are abused?

Question

I WAS once. And I hide it. Maybe you should ask for help. Talk to us. I know there are nice people on here with good hearts and minds. Try us.

Thank you all.

Answer 1

Abuse comes in many shapes and forms, and education is needed to let people know exactly what abuse is. Women and men will misinterpret a controlling spouse as just the way he/she is....but any behavour that makes a spouse feel like they are worthless is abuse.

When a woman is physically and mentally abused, the abuser usually only gets that control over a short period of time. The abuser uses phsycological warfare on their spouse...they wear them down with the abuse...always blaming the victim where they begin to believe they deserve it. They dont tell anyone, not because they are embarrassed, they believe they deserve what they are getting....they have totally lost the ability to think logically.

A child who is abused usually feel like they deserved it too...that they are a bad child. If the abuse has not been dealt with professionally, it is hard for anyone who has been abused to really come out and talk about it, simply because the whole experience is probably totally confusing....they dont know what is wrong and what is right. The last thing a victim needs is someone blaming them because they already blame themselves. I think its more a fear of being chastised for "making a mountain out of a molehill" that prevents a lot of victims coming forward. A victim will usually make excuses for the abuser, and sometimes they get it in their head that they are not being abused at all. The mind is a wonderful thing...it can deny the truth and start to think of things that make the abuse "right". It is a survival technique. No-one stays in an abusive relationship for no reason.....the mind has been conditioned to accept it. Its only when a child grows up and meet other people, do they realise that what was happening to them as a child is wrong, and then they start learning what love is....thats probably when they will come forward and talk about their experiences. The same with an abused husband/wife....it is usally only after they have found the strength to leave the abuse, will they come forward to talk about it honestly. Its very scary for a victim of abuse to actually come forward and talk about it, because their mind is unhealthy and talking about it,. is the unknown....they dont know how people are going to react. Its a very complex situation.....you were abused and find it hard to talk about....search your own feelings and work out why you cant talk about it....its probably for the same reasons most victims of abuse cant talk about it. A victim of abuse is now called a survivor of abuse because they found ways to survive it.....they found ways to make it "right" in their brain. The people who stand by and watch a loved one endure being abused and dont understand it, are the ones with a healthy mind....they know what abuse is, but they are not living it and will never know how the mind can play tricks to programme itself to allow the victim to endure it.

Victims of abuse need to have their minds re-progammed about everything....and the only real successful way this can happen is to go into therapy, but even then, and Ive heard it said by thousands of abuse victims, even the ones who have had counselling....that they always feel different. Abuse affects every part of your life....talking about it is the first step to healing. I'm with you, but the victim has to recognise they are a victim of abuse first. How that can happen, I honestly dont know.

I really have to add, to the person who gave my answer a bad rating...you must have something personal against me, because the answer I gave is based on actual experience and a lot of research.

Answer 2

I'm not a woman, but I've been physically and verbally attacked by my wife many times when we would have disagreements. It hasn't happened lately but the damage is still there. I really can't stand her and can't stand to be around her in part because of her disrespectful and hurtful words and actions from the past. But, we have children to raise. I secretly wish I could just pay her off and let her go, and then marry someone else but it wouldn't be the right thing to do.

Oh, I never fought back because I didn't want to risk going to jail and losing my job. We could not afford the loss of income.

Answer 3

I trust your facets absolutely. Sadly, feminism has misused chivalry to put in force gender stereotypes to extremes. While a person was once as soon as allowed to preserve himself from a vicious assault by way of his spouse, he's now imprisoned. Women are actually allowed to homicide husbands and youngsters IF she will be able to persuade the Judge that it was once a person's fault - by some means. I am what you can also name a DV 'survivor'. My ex was once very adversarial and among herself and her mom, drove me suicidal greater than as soon as throughout our time in combination... Why that choice? Because, feminism has faked information and lied constantly to be certain that ONLY females get aid. We did have the police flip up one time... I had a black eye and more than a few scratches. By the time I'd come again out of the toilet, they would vanished. The police officers might now not careless approximately male sufferers due to the fact that feminists continuously faux that simplest feminine sufferers will have to be cared for.

Answer 4

I was abused early in my life by a neighbor who lived across the road from us and my first marriage was mentally and emotionally abusive which ended sadly. This first thing to do is to admit you are being abused and reach out for help. Asking for help is the first step of getting out and getting out of the bad situation.

Answer 5

Well, obviously i am not a women, my mother was and still is in a relationship with an abusive person. He turned a lot better now, but he hurt my mom so much ,she even went to the hospital once, WHEN SHE WAS PRENGANT!!! Anyways i am glad my step-dad(still same one) is a lot more nicer. So yeah..um....there....

Answer 6

Not many people will admit it, because they are embarrassed. Most abused children or girls (or even guys) will hide it because they think that somehow it's their fault, even if it isn't...because they allowed it to happen or something.

(I wasn't abused, and that is the truth.)

Answer 7

I was physically abused as a child over a period of 4 yrs .. and again when i was engaged to my ex fiancee' , but enough was enough and i snapped and fought back.

Its not easy when alot of those who are abused physically are abused by someone in their opinion loves them. They won't see it as abuse, just that he/she was having a bad day or a rough time in their life .

Answer 8

many people wouldn't say anything because they might be scared of people might say(even there parents or best friends)my best friend was abused as a guy by another guy and didn't say a thing until i read it on his computer file.he said he was really scared...so maybe many other people feel the same way.

Answer 9

I was married to a make that pyschologially used to abuse me. But now I am no longer with him

Answer 10

one time I punched my husband in the face and then like 3 weeks later he threw me on the ground because I slapped him for no apparent reason. That's about it. Both incidents involved alcohol. We're cool now. We laugh and smile and make sweet love.