Hi friends,
I'm very upset about my relationship. We married for 12 years and have 1 boy. My husband makes a lot of money, and he spent a lot too. I ask him what he spent money for he didn't give me the answer, he alway says "I make a lot of money so I have something to spent" If I ask more detail he tell me have seperated bank account and don't look on what he spent so it doesn't bother me. What should I do? Is he cheating on me?
Thanks for your help.
2007-03-24 13:07:54 · 10 answers · asked by Kimvan T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i doubt it...but you have to let him know that you feel upset thinking that there might be another girl out there or that maybe your in probolems with someone and that you owe money
2007-03-24 13:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being married too him for 12 yrs did this just start? If not then he maybe defensive that you are all of a sudden worrying about what he is doing with the money. Do you work? If so then get a seperate acct and dont tell him what you are doing with your money, and see how he likes it
If you have a joint acct, you should be able to call the bank or the credit company (or go online) and see the statements
I believe marriage should be 50/50 and no secrets should be kept.
2007-03-24 13:14:46 · answer #2 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you of course. But it may not be the kind of cheating you think. He's cheating you because marriage is, at it's best, a partnership and your guy is hiding a great deal. How to advise you? I presume his keeping finances secret is nothing new and there isn't much chance he'll open up the books without a court inquiry in divorce proceedings.
2007-03-24 13:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how many more clues you need to take charge of your life. If you make your own money I suggest getting your own acct. so you can save some money for you and your son not to mention your rainy day fund! You dont need any man to ride you off into the sunset honey cuz you will get there by yourself if thats where you were headed! If you arent working I will say point blank....GET ONE NOW!!!
2007-03-24 13:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by wannaraeseyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't have something to hide, he would tell you and he would be proud of the fact that he can be an open book and deserves his wife's trust. You can't prove he is cheating on you, but you can prove a lack of trust and communciation and openness and you certainly can tell him that this isn't acceptable in a marriage.
2007-03-24 13:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and explain that you're not accusing him of anything, and you're not trying to upset him but you would really apreciate if he would tell you what this moeny is being used for. If he still refuses to tell you then he must be hideing something from you. but don't jump to conclusions, just investigate a little, and i would suggest possibly seeing a marriage couseler if he still doesn't tell you. Yeah it might seem weird to you, and you might not want to but it would be obvious he is hiding something, and he is making it hard for you to trust him. good luck
2007-03-24 13:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows how important this issue is to him.
Tell him that you believe in a trusting relationship,
and in order for you to trust him,
he has to trust you.
And that means telling you the truth,
good or bad.
2007-03-24 13:15:26 · answer #7 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's being defensive, he may have a reason. That's all I can say. I don't know him and his morals though. I hope it's nothing.
2007-03-24 13:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk with him, tell him how you feel about him spending so much. i hope its nothing big!!!!
2007-03-24 13:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by kadishaalexander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him if he really loves you that he should tell you
2007-03-24 13:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋