I do have the tendency of changing other people..and it bothers me..I always give advice to my friends to stop pleasing others..oh well in fact..i change other person just to please another..
2007-03-24 13:00:35 · 9 answers · asked by Khit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Usually people doing this are not sure of themselves and you are projecting your opinions on others to make you feel better about your confusion. (I read this on a fortune cookie)or maybe it was Dr Phil.
2007-03-24 13:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by MST3K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change? A permanent change? They must do that themselves. You simply can't take the credit if they do nor the blame if they don't change.
No one can really change another unless that person is already willing to change.
He or she might pretend, to tickle your ears of it they think it's the only way to please you but no one will actually "change" unless they want to.
We can give advise until we're blue in the face.
It does mean that it will be accepted of followed through.
You may have a strong personality and undoubtedly could influence another but in the end result, they decide for themselves what they really want.
Have you ever tried to ask a leopard to change his spots???
You can help people learn different things but only if you have some sort of evidence or logic to make a good point. You might be a good teacher?
If so, why should you hate it???
What is it that you think you change in others that you think is so bad?
That's for you to determine.
2007-03-24 13:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most of us have this tendency. But sometimes you experience, that even though you try very hard, no result comes and the other person remains like he or she is. If you like that person very much, than you will slowly learn to accept that person, like he or she is. This will help you with the time not to try to change everybody, till the person is perfect in your eyes. Nobody is perfect, not even you and it is so fine to like other persons with all their failures.
2007-03-24 13:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Luisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
somehow you remind me of myself. if i do something i tend to look on how it will affect others than myself. Everyone need a little advice now and then so why would you want to stop changing people it's not like you are giving bad advice. nowadays people tend to go about things to please only themselves and don't see the effect it have on others. so to take the time out to please someone, i definately see nothing wrong with it.
2007-03-24 13:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by nicky4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No nO no. people don't change they just become more and more like they are. don't do this to yourself hun, accept the way people are and love them for it, tey were like that before you met and will be that way after you've gone. be the bes person you can be, and you know its much more fun to fix your own things on your own.
2007-03-24 13:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not your fault people just tend to respect your opinions. You just need to relax on the judgments and advice a little.
2007-03-24 13:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by wish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem.
maybe we;re just too strong of personalities and people are easily influenced.
i dont know.
or maybe people are attracted to your personality so much that they'll do anything to make you 100% happy.
2007-03-24 13:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow this rule:
You can't change people,but just Yourself.
try it and enjoy life.
2007-03-24 13:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Slash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh! Buffy is that you?
2007-03-24 13:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by wisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋