well i nvr talk about ANYTHING with my mom so i dont know if im allowed to date. im scared to ask her cuz im afraid of what shed say. i think she'd just laugh in my face. so is there a good way to find out if im allowed to date without asking it to her face?
2007-03-24 12:50:55 · 14 answers · asked by April 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im 14 by the way
2007-03-24 12:51:07 · update #1
Convince her that you're a smart, responsible young girl who's not too fast and knows what to do and how to handle certain situtations. Don't listen to these other dorks telling you to watch The Suite Life of Zack and Cody when they don't even know how to spell it. :)
I'm not even allowed to date yet (I'm 15 can't date until I'm 16), I don't think you're too young to date exactly, just inexperienced, but then again who wouldn't be on their first date at any age you know? Good luck.
2007-03-24 13:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can take small steps into this dating thing. Go out with your BF and another couple until you can gain her trust. But start out slow don't make your mom allow you to be alone with a boy. You have a lot of learning to do and do does your mom. Its going to be hard for her to let go of her baby and you will feel the same with someday your baby girl comes to you and asks you to do the same. So you and your mom need to talk and be OK when she says you can go out with a few other couple that is progress and go with that. And when the trust is strong and the communication is open later ask for one and on dates.
2007-03-24 20:04:25 · answer #2 · answered by hudgey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight forward approach, just ask her to talk and sit her down and tell her you feel like you are ready to date. make sure she knows your intentions for dating (i.e. companionship, your friends all have b/fs, whatever.), and let her know straight out where you stand on the sex issue, because, believe me, she will most likely bring it up. let her know that if you have a problem that you don't think you can handle on your own you will come to her, so that way she knows that you can handle the small stuff. tell her what guy you want to date, and tell her everything you know about him, good or bad. make sure she knows that he won't be a majorly huge distraction (i.e. you don't do homework or chores or whatever because of him). you coming out and telling her like that should send the message that you are ready for the resposibility. i know, it sounds like i'm tellin you how to ask your parents for a dog or something, but it works believe me. my mom had a very strict "no dating until you're 16' rule and she let me date at 15 (barely) because i came to her and asked her instead of lying about it.
the other way? get a bf, ask your mom if "your friend" can come over after school, for dinner, on saturday, whatever, and introduce him as your bf and see her reaction.
by the way, i do NOT reccomend the latter as a first approach, only as a last resort, and i mean VERY LAST RESORT.
2007-03-24 20:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by genmarie04 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to date. And you should always talk to your mom! She went through the same stuff you are going through and she will understand. So, just ask her. Do not be afraid.
2007-03-24 22:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try talkin to her about it. Explain that she can set the rules, and after she feels she can trust you, then maybe she will allow you more freedom. Most mothers won't laugh in your face, especially if you approach them in a mature manner. She will be proud and probably touched that you actually went and talked to her about it.
2007-03-24 20:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her at first, he's just a friend and eventually act like it's beginning to be a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship.
2007-03-24 20:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by the Politics of Pikachu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your too young to date in my opinion but every parent is different, my daughters wont date until there 16. i had that rule and im sticking with it. Try just talking to her about a boy u like in school and discuss with her wether or not she thinks your ready to go out on a date. this is something thats not funny to any mother and i doubt she would laugh in your face.
2007-03-24 19:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by cudybug 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Well from my prespective your to young to start dating. Plainly put I wouldn't even ask because if your mom is like me she will say No.
2007-03-24 20:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are too young to date. talking in person to your mother is a much more noble thing to do than in writing. just bring it up in pleasant conversation, i doubt she'll laugh at you.
2007-03-24 19:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by pwrgrlmanda 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
your to young to date any how
2007-03-24 19:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Belgrademitch 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋