we have been marired for 11 years
2007-03-24 12:50:42 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should get marriage guidance counselling.
2007-03-24 12:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you say In-love!
Love moves on,gets deeper in my world,are you one of them people that likes the hedonistic feeling you first get in the beginning, but are afraid to commit to the real deal?
Let go, you may be pleasantly surprised.
How does your partner feel about you?
Are you scared to accept the responsibility off true Love, so fall at the first hurdle?
Seek and you will discover a truer deeper you.
So hard to comment because you didn't give any in site to your relationship,just been Married for 11 Years, has it been that much off a chore? If so, run for the Hills don't wait around.
Otherwise grow with your relationship and thank god everyday for what you have that many people never find.
In ans 2 your question if you want to, then you will fall in love with this person again,again etc
Ever changing Animal.
2007-03-24 20:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard question to answer not knowing if you have children or not I am in the same place as you but i am not married after being hurt so many times i don't know if i can love again so i just take each day as it comes but then i have children .Maybe you can stay married until you fall in love because who knows maybe you will fall in love with your husband again as there must have been something there once
2007-03-25 15:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by andrew h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a difficult question that no-one can answer for you. You have to be 100% sure that you no longer love your husband - how would you feel if you never saw him or spoke with him again (that is the reality of what could well happen). If you know you could cope with that ...then probably you would both be better off leaving. If you don't think you could, then work at the marriage with him, but you both need to communicate. Don't leave things too long, your husband deserves to have the opportunity to find someone that loves him wholeheartedly too.
2007-03-25 17:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by MrandMrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to do put adventure and creativity back into your marriage? Go on a cruise or something. Remember, everything new (even relationships) will become old over time. No matter who you are with, the laundry's still gotta be done, etc.
If in your heart of hearts you just can't find anything about him to love, then go your own ways. There are many people out there and you will find someone compatible again, as will he.
2007-03-24 20:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by wishywashy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a strong faith in God so I believe that God can heal any marriage if we only ask Him to do so. I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 22 years and I can tell you that every marriage changes as time goes by and even the best of marriages go through rough patches, but you can get through them. There is a program called "Rekindling The Romance" Weekends. It is hosted by Family Life. You can find out about it at www.familylife.org . My husband and I have been to several of them and they were very enlightening and encouraging. You learn something new each time and it is a time for just the two of you to rediscover why you fell in love and how to make those feelings blossom. I also recommend a book by Gary Smalley called "The Five Love Languages" . It really helped my husband and myself communicate better, which in turn helped us to show love and feel loved. I will be praying for you and your marriage. May God bring you peace in this situation.
2007-03-24 20:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by rai k 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the point in staying married if you're not in love with your partner..
I've just got a divorce, we were married for over 25 years.. Why make yourself miserable and your partner miserable.. Leaving was the best thing I ever did.. I don't regret it.. People don't believe that if you're the one who leaves you don't grieve for the marriage you had.. they're wrong.. you still grieve.. but you move on.
Don't torture yourself or your partner.. you can find love again.. and you will be doing your partner a favour by allowing them the freedom to find love again too.. instead of holding on to something that is stagnant and dead..
Good luck!!
2007-03-25 14:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Britlass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stick through this marriage, don't ever marry again. Read "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus" by Dr. John Gray and "The Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
You know there is a lot of history lost when a marriage falls apart. Don't underestimate the pain and sadness of that one thing.
2007-03-24 19:55:06 · answer #8 · answered by mJc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stay in the marriage if I was not in love with my husband. I would go on and live my life. You will probably find yourself more happier. I wouldn't be looking at getting into another relationship though. Don't be out there looking or you might end up with someone worse.
2007-03-24 23:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by Theresa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been married for 11 years and while i love him i am not in love with him.i feel he is more like my best friend. i want out but he wont accept things and let me move on, i have 2 kids also and i feel guilty but you cannot continue to live a lie, it will only get you down and make you both resent eachother in the long run, do what your heart tells you, and good luck, if you wan to chat anytime IM me.
2007-03-27 08:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you seem to have the decency to consider the guys feelings most women would just go and have it off with some other guy while still sponging off the guy they want to leave.. think hard and if it's in both your best interests (no children etc) then don't prolong it talk to him and reach a speedy decision... good luck.
2007-03-24 20:06:02 · answer #11 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋