ok so there is this girl in my class she drives me crazy! shes bugged me so bad in front of my friends i cryed. she makes fun of my friends the guy i like, my music, my athleticness (mine is indeed better then hers) the way i dress and so much more. i ve told my mom, my teachers, my friends but one ones stopped her. she needs to be stopped NOW!!! and if no one else will i will have to. i need help to defeat this bully! now!
2007-03-24 12:35:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I believe that by your actions of crying and feeling insecure you are making this "bully" stronger. She obviously is quite insecure herself or she wouldn't be picking on others.
The best thing you can do is to let the comments roll off your back like water off a duck! Consider the source and stop fuelling her fire and fanning her flames with reactions. People like this bully don't feel good about themselves and that's why they try to make others feel bad about themselves. Misery loves company!!! She's succeeding right now .... but if you ignore what she says, don't have attitude towards her and don't discuss with others what she's saying ... she will stop because you will be taking the fun out of the game for her.
She should be pitied because obviously her own self-esteem is very low. Many people are drawn to bullies. Especially people who are also quite weak. By befriending a bully these others THINK they are gaining strength. However when each individual bully is standing alone physically ... they truly are ALONE emotionally!
Be a strong person, know what YOU like and what YOU want to achieve in Your life and strive for that! As you get older you'll realize that there is really on one person you can ALWAYS count on ... and that person is .... YOURSELF!!
2007-03-24 13:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
heyy! i have had that same problem for like 2 years. the best thing to do is ignore her, laugh back at her when she laughs at you. and you don't need to defeat her because you already did. and from my past experience try not to cry no matter how hard it hurts becasue if you do then she will bully you even more. Always have a close friend of yours talking to you all the time so when she comes near you or says stuff about you in fornt of you it's easy for you to ignore her and mind your own business. good luck hope my tip helped
2007-03-24 20:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont go columbine, that generally doesnt work out well. and adults crap about ignoring them is also garbage. However u can do a 180 on that punk **** ***** (sorry but its needed cuz thats what it seems she is) and make fun of her, kill her self esteem and just destroy her. or on the other hand u can be super nice to her and come in to class "hey how are u? my weekend was pretty good i did blah blah. and then be nice to her all hour do that for 2 weeks or w/e and then she really cant do anything and if she does, vaseline and razors in the b-r will have to do (jk jk)
2007-03-24 19:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to defeat a bully is to show them nothing they do bothers you....even if it does.
Ignore her, when she insults you, do nothing, or just shug casually and walk away, the thing about bullies is...they wont keep on if they think it dont bother you, they'll find something or someone else to bug...and thus, they will contienue their pathetic existance untill they decide to grow up.
2007-03-24 19:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Have you ever read the book Odd Girl Out? I think you should pick it up. It tells about how to handle these mean girls. Usually, mean girls attack girls that actually have a lot going for them and it begins because the mean girls are actually jealous. Their next step is to rally all of their friends against you and make your life miserable. I saw it happen to a girl I know. She stayed strong, made new friends and is doing great. I know it's hard, but don't let her see it get to you. Hold your head high and know that you are terrific. It's hard, but you can do it! I think the book will help you to see that you are not alone...........Good Luck! =)
2007-03-24 19:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by FlowerMB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so ur problem is serious, but it can be solved by talking it out. If u talked it out and told her how you don't like how she is bullying u, obviously u wouldn't put it like that though. You could put it as treating u with disrespect. I hope that works, if it doesn't, try talking to someone who can help you!! I don't know you so that's the best I can do. Hope I helped
2007-03-24 19:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by asadsasdasd12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHow her you're the stronger person. I know it might not stop her, but think about it. If she's bugging you it's because you're everything she's not. The best thing to do is ignore her, shrug her off , don't give her any reason to keep going. Don't waste your energy on her.
2007-03-24 19:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by meximari420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is only taunting you, don't let it bother you. Usually a bully is the biggest coward around. Physical confrontation is not want you want, although you do need to know how to defend yourself.
If you are being threatened, then you need to let someone know immediately. I do not condone violence, but never be afraid to defend yourself! What do your friends have to say about this?
2007-03-24 19:42:44 · answer #8 · answered by High-wire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's picking on you because you've shown her how vulnerable you are. And why do you care what she has to say, anyway?? Ask your teacher to move your seating assignment or get out of that class and into another - then stay away from her and if you do run into her - ignore her.
2007-03-24 19:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have told them once and you need to go and tell them again and let them know this time this is serious situation to you. Tell your mom to go to the school with you and handle this problem. She is belittling you and you have rights to make her stop and actions to be taken.
2007-03-24 19:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋