whatever he is earning,not showing me his bank statements,and has open some new bank accounts here and in his native country,since six months and told me that his father stop him to tell anything to his wife as money is not the women`s bussiness,he was truting me since four years of our marriage but now he`s just refusing to show,and said call lawyer if you are so curious,you marry me not my money,he is very much in control of his family,sending them many thousand dollars since 13 years as they show him that they are very poor people,although it`s not true.I have a 2 year old son and I am 4 months pregnant,he is a middle aged guy and has lot of diseases,still he is working day and night ,not giving me and my baby any time,what should I do??how could I rule out what he is doing?is he sincere to me or not,as his family just pushing him to do another marriage ,is he sending all of his savings to them?please help me,tell me any way without a lawyer.i don`t want divorce with kids,thanks....
2007-03-24 12:33:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is such a hard question to answer simply because it sounds like you are not a western woman. You cant get the answers here because you have had your entire life to be conditioned to think that women are a man's slave. A non-western woman doesnt seem to have choices....they just have to do what their husband wants of them....In short, the man is the boss and the woman is just this things that provides everything for the man.
Maybe if you want to know what its like to have true freedom, you need to leave your husband and need to leave all the things that have conditioned you to think you deserve to be treated like a thing. If you could do that, then maybe you stand a chance of believing you are an important person who has just as many rights as any man. Whilever you accept you are a lesser person than your husband, then he will always have control.
2007-03-24 12:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't badger him about the money, but ask him what the problem is. Tell him that he means more to you than the money, ( only if that is true) and that all you are trying to do is help. That you are worried about his health, and what will happen to you or his family if he dies because he hasn't looked after himself properly. Get him to tell you what you can do to ease his workload. And how long is it since you told him that you love him?
2007-03-24 12:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is bad. He is moving money out of the country where you will have a problem getting any if needs arise. Also, he could be planning of obeying his father. Please get an attorney and know your rights as his wife.
2007-03-24 12:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is a *** he has responsibility's as husband and as of a father Its time for you to call an attorney an show him that you will not tolerate his crap any more. I know that you may love him but I don't think he loves you and that may hurt but I don't think you and your son should suffer. take control.
2007-03-24 12:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by julianneciechoski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire an attorney, file for divorce and and freeze his bank accounts. Let him whine to his father about that.
2007-03-24 12:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be planning to leave u, best to get an attorney, attorney is the only way. why would u want to stay with a man who isn't trusting u with his finances. he is hiding all of his money so he can make his get away.
2007-03-24 12:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Likely hes hiding it for the divorce he has planned...
2007-03-24 13:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's prepping for the big move...
2007-03-24 12:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋