My friends and I now have a gap.....?

Question

I have known this group of friends for approximately 10 years. We're now in our mid 20s, and everyone has his/her career and life. We still hang out all the time, but I sometimes feel that we have a gap because the stuff that we talk about and want to do are totally different. I feel that they're not advancing. What should I do? Any good advice.

Answer 1

so you're 25- ish? This happens to everyone... When you're in high school and college it's easy to make friends because your in a contrived social environment. When you get out of that common situation all of your idiosyncrasies and individual traits start to surface. It's no longer about how you all respond to the same situation-- it's about how you respond to your individual situations and how you still care enough about each other to listen ( and not judge) to what's going on. People do not progress at the same rate and sometimes we just outgrow one another-- it happens. But it definitely becomes harder to make new friends as you get older-- I mean really good friends who will listen to you blather about crazy dreams, or significant other issues, success, failures-- whatever. All this to say-- you may not stay friends with the group for the rest of your life-- but for the one or two that hang in-- be patient, understanding and you will be so glad when you're 40 and you have one friend who was there when...

Answer 2

Hi!!!

Yes, that is what happens when people progress. Some do but not others!!! Or at least not like one!!!

My advise, is keep your friends as in the past, but take that into consideration, so when you hang out with them, you know what to expect!!!

And also, start to look for a different ambiance, where you can fell comfortable on your on skin now, and where you can be able to display your true colors, as a career oriented young man!!!

To keep progressing in life one needs to adjust to changes, and this is one change you need to adjust.

Just because you were friends for long happy years, means
that you have to get stuck with the same routines, and same people!!!

Socialize big time, and keep on!!! It seems to me the way you express yourself, that you want to meet people and go places. Good for you!! Need to cut some cords, short in order to have more freedom!!!

GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE

A.Z.

Answer 3

I can kinda relate, I feel like that sometimes. Just don't go into the relationships with preconceived expectations of how everything is going to be. Nobody is going to be the same as they used to be 10 years ago, but that doesn't mean you can't still get along with them. I found that when I go and see old friends, I really have to rediscover what they're all about and not just assume that I know.

Answer 4

It's natural for you to feel a larger distance from your friends as you get older and grow as adults. Remember, just because they are your good friends doesn't mean they have to be your only friends. Meet new people with the same interests as you and develop new friendships. Let your current friends know how much they mean to you but don't feel bad if you want to meet new people. There's nothing wrong with having lots of friends! Besides, you and your friends are maturing at different rates and eventually you will all be at the same maturity level again.

Answer 5

For the next while, spend time with all of them. Hang out a few times every week or sumthin like that. You will soon have similar interests and you will fill that gap about 80%..

GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

everyone is growing to be independent,just because you are advancing further than the group, remember as you back away they will notice, then again stay sociable and also busy so it wont seem obvious

Answer 7

so wat the hell i dont care

pluse i dont