My ex boyfriend and I are sophmores. We dated for about 6 months when we were freshman. This school year he started dating my friend. They broke up because he didnt feel the same was about her as she did him. I cried over him for 7 months. While he was dating my friend he would be a jerk to me. Lately hes been flirty. My friends were on a class trip for the day and my friend Gary came back. I yelled I missed you Gary and my ex yelled what about me. He has hugged me, sat at my lunch table, tried to touch me. Sometimes I can catch him just staring at me. I was upset so he asked me what was wrong and if I wanted a hug. I'm hesitant to get too close to him anymore after crying for 7 months. I dont know if I see him as a friend or more. What should I do? Oh and by the way we broke up because of communication problems. He was really overprotective of me and never left me alone. I was to scared to tell I needed alone time. I dont know if I should give him a second chanece. What do you think?
2007-03-24 12:25:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Thanks for answering
2007-03-24 12:35:34 · update #1
You will hear this over and over but there are so many fish in the sea. I can't tell you how many tears I shed for so many boyfriends in school. Go out have fun with several people at once. Don't tie yourself down to one person. Date date date all kinds of different people and when you get a little older you will know then what your type is and then can go find your true love. But have fun don't get tied down like i did to myself.
2007-03-24 12:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by hudgey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im in the phase of stopping crying after 5 months lol so i know how that goes.. dont let him do it again. i know how much u want to but think about ur self. he was a jerk the first time, now he doesnt have to start over physically so he wont be any nicer. the over protectedness is also not healthy, he may not let u see your guy friends. one of my friends guy wouldnt even let her talk to gay boys because "they may just want to touch u" if u want to go back with him and think you can handle it more power to u. but id stay single, remember y u broke up in the first place, it wasnt cause things were happy go lucky. good luck
2007-03-24 14:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kait 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know what kind of friendship you and your friend have but Im guessing its pretty crappy...whose friend goes out with their 6 month bf. I think thats the bigger question here. I think that you know that its not a good to date because otherwise you would have been going out by now again. I always going to have feelings for a guy you dated for 6 months...especially since im assuming its one of your first relationships but the feelings dont mean you should go back out with them. hang in there and move on. he might just be flirting to get back at your friend or upset because he doenst have either of you.
2007-03-24 13:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Charlie McKool 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, overprotective? Why would you want to go back to that. If he can be a good friend that's fine but c'mon. I'm sure he flirts with you and thats fine but he had his chance and what has changed about him to make him treat you any different. The touching and hugging is what boys do (we call "game") He must feel pretty big telling his friends about you and your friend...and back again? dang he must be good.
2007-03-24 12:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like this guy is "protective" but what he really is is controlling. don't go back, and warn every girl you know. if you've ever seen maury, then you know what i am talking about. you don't want that kind of relationship. he sounds like the kind of guy that would hit you if you did something he didn't like. to be sure, before we label this guy as controlling, ask your friend how he was with her. personally, he sounds like a jerk. no decent guy would date an ex's best friend then try to get back with the ex. at least, that's been my experience.
2007-03-24 13:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by genmarie04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont gie him a sceond chance.... been there, done that
he probably broke up with you, to go out with your friend... so when he was done with your friend, he came back to you, seeing you were so upset about him for that long.
seriously, move on. it isnt worth it. even though he might make you feel good at times..... he will probably cause you to have more pain
do you wanna cry for another 7 months?... IF HE LEFT YOU FOR 7 MONTHS, HE DOES NOT DESERVE YOU AT ALL...it sows that he didnt really care you guys were apart.
i just think you are his "back-up" girl.
2007-03-24 14:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by =] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should have him as just a friend. and then see where it goes there... try to not be scared to talk to him about what happened in your relationship meaning don't be afriad that you need to have some of your space and not be too protective. its okay if he's protective but it shouldn't be over done
2007-03-24 12:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by Gothic Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confess to her. Theres no other way. You were dumb enough to lie about 1 year age difference for a girl. Your afraid to lose her... should have thought about that before lying to her face!
2016-03-29 02:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. If he was trying to control you once, he's gonna do it again if you give him the chance! I think you should just be friends.
2007-03-24 12:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Fernando 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to go climb a tree...
i mean really ........u r no toy and neither is ur freind ..this guy has no business to go out with u then dump u and go out with ur freind.........whats with this guy????he enjoys with u then goes and sticks to ur freind........man ,,,,the guy sure has the guts..........if i were u i wouldnt even look at hypocrite...besides wen ur freind knew that he dumped u to go out with her she should not have let him..if he could break ur heart then definately he could do the same to her.........moreover even if u do giv the GUY A SECOND CHANCE WHAT GUARENTEE DO U HAV THAT HE WONT REPEAT WHAT HE DID EARLIER?????????
2007-03-25 06:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋