get on top while were having sex. I'm not really experienced in this area. I'm a bigger girl, and I feel very insecure about getting on top so I have never really done it. But he really likes it. So I asked him to show me how it feels good to him. All he ever says is however I want to do it. Why won't he just tell me? Any one got any tips or ideas. I would greatly appriciate it.
2007-03-24 12:18:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I often say "however you want" to my girlfriend, because I do genuinely feel that. Most men will want you to enjoy yourself as much as possible - not only because it turns them on, but because it reflects well on them.
If you want to ramp it up, you need to move with rhythm, from the hips. Remember in this position your guy will get a great view of (all of) you! He is gonna love that, even if you are insecure you must remember your guy doesn't notice the same "flaws" as you do. He is gonna be having too much fun to notice, and how do you know he doesn't find your larger figure a good thing?
He may also be shy, or like you being in control - undoubtedly because he doesn't want to offend you by wanting something you might dislike.
Just do whatever feels good and that is doubtless enough. Remember to try and be confident, because that is a very attractive trait.
2007-03-24 12:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by L.A.J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not all that skinny either and I love being on top. For me it feels better and I get to be in control and go at my own pace. I get to move so that it makes me feel good. Your guy obviously loves your body and is attracted to you so you don't' have to feel insecure but if you do then tell him you feel insecure. If your honest with him then he'll be honest with you and you can come to a decision you both will enjoy.
2007-03-24 19:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by wicca_alison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The times you have been on top must have been good to him or he would not ask you to continue. Rent some porn with big girls to give you a visual. The most important thing is to relax.
2007-03-24 20:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's somthing I used to go through as well, being a big girl myself i didn't like being on top at first you have to trust yourself, and him. he likes it so it's not that you are doing anything wrong it's your own fears. just go with the flo just relax and ride him. if this position is not okay for you then tell him that you want to change it up so it is enjoyable for all of you
2007-03-24 19:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl I'm a pro and imma big girl too!!! what you do is close your eyes and let your hair down and let loose you dont think you can do it but you can and its great especially as a big girl!! you have to just tell him to talk dirty to you he'll start to get it to it to the point that you wont even know that you dont know what your doing. and keep the lights on lol!!!
2007-03-24 19:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by neccy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you on top, then you shouldn't be insecure. Obviously he doensn't mind your body, so don't be nervous about him seeing it. Have fun :)
2007-03-24 19:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jump on top take control and prepare for the best big "O". its not just good for him but its good for u too, and u'll figure out your own rythem & moves
2007-03-24 19:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes it, do it for him. Sometimes it is better for you on top too. Forget those inhibitions and let go.
2007-03-24 19:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and tell him how insecure you are about the idea.
2007-03-24 19:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by MadelinesMommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me I would tell him that you are insecure about this whole deal.explaining to him it is making u uncomfortable that you like him to be please you also not just urself.I would play with him and suck him and stroke him.thats i can tell ya
2007-03-24 19:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋