my friend is havn trouble with his parents. ever since he was 3 his parents hav beat him ( not hard, but with stuff lik coat hangers and brooms) and it really hurt him. i had always heard him talk about it but i couldnt do anythin because we didnt hav proof(although i belived him because i had seen him around his parents). well, one day, after skool,he was on my porch with both his arms wipped ( his mom brok a coat hanger beatin him). with the help of my mom, we got the police over and informed them of the situation. they arrested his mom but didnt press charges. well anyway, its been lik a month and my mom has always suggested since then that we get him a counsular at skool. at first i pressed him hard but he wouldnt budge. now, after a month, he seems fine but im still worried about his inside. i think hes hidding emotions but doesnt show it. i kno emotions shouldnt be bottld up but every tim i bring up the word "counsular" he quickly disregards it. he seems fin and happy, but i wory
2007-03-24 12:18:04 · 7 answers · asked by pyro_maniac_darkfire 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i kno wat it is lik goin through hard times with family and i dont want him scared. should i press him, or let him be?
2007-03-24 12:19:08 · update #1
P.S. i asked him if he was ok with leavin his parents and he said NO with much emotion and hatred in his voice
2007-03-24 12:26:02 · update #2
I had a friend in H.S. with the same prob. We took them to the school psy. they were put into a foster home, You need to show him support and don't pressure him just let him know how concerned you are for him and what you think would help him. You will get into a fight, but he know you are just trying to help. They are his parents and you never want to think they can do anything wrong. Unfortunately this isn't the case here. I hope your friend knows how much you care for him, its hard to watch and not do anything. I know I have been there.
2007-03-24 12:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by dom_anh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. It would also depend on your friends age. I would call your local children's services if your friend is younger than 18. I would definatley encourage him (DON'T push, you don't want to loose communication with him) to see a counselor or a school counselor. If he doesn't feel comfortable, maybe YOU can talk to your school counselor and explain the situation. Than the school counselor can make the first move. It might be easier for your friend to talk to them after they make the first move and he knows they are interested and safe to talk with. In the mean time, be the best friend you can be and LISTEN to everything he has to say. He's going to need you more than ever. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-24 12:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by Amy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not let him be because he is your friend and you care about him. So show him you care by you keep telling him about a counsler. If he doesn't go to the counsler's office like you want him to then its your job to go to the counsler's for him. On a day during school go to the counsling office and tell the your friends first and last name so they can pull him out of class and talk to him. And after you tell them his name tell them what his parents do to him. Then tell them he really needs a counsler to talk to.
And when they do pull him out of class, they might call the police to go to his parents house and they will handle it.
And your friend will then know just exactly how much you care about him because you went through and did something about his problem.
2007-03-24 12:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his beating are leaving marks, they are hitting him hard. It is painful physically and emotionally. Don't nag him about it. He probably doesn't want to tell you anymore because he doesn't want to get his parents in trouble.
If you know he is being abused have your mom report it anonymously to child abuse. Don't tell him about it. You could also discuss your concerns with a counselor at school. But don't betray him again.
2007-03-24 12:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should try to be there for him, to talk when he wants to or even if he doesnt want to.dont press him just listen and let him know u care
2007-03-24 12:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shunt get him a counsel he should live with you or put him in foster care
2007-03-24 12:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by Kara M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU BEING A GREAT FRIEND ASK HIM DOES HE WANT A CONSULAR AND IF HE DOESN'T THEN LET HIM BE
2007-03-24 12:23:11 · answer #7 · answered by MS.NEISHA-BOO SUCH A KUTIE!!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋