after ten years of being toghther he hurt me. he wants me to give him another chance.
2007-03-24 12:16:56 · 10 answers · asked by stinkylady28 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi,
It hurts so much to be betrayed by the one you love. It's probably among the big heartaches! Sometimes we need to step way back, allow some space, get your head clear. A second chance may be possible. People do make mistakes. You haven't said what your love has done to you...had an affair, overcharged your credit card...? If it was an affair (I'm assuming), that's one of the biggest hurts of all!!! If your love is deep, search your heart, imagine your life without him/her. I mean stay with that for awhile. He/she is gone for good, out of your life. It is possible that the thought of that will hurt even more! If you cannot decide, seek counseling...even if it's alone! There are a lot of inexpensive services, family counseling, etc. You may decide to forgive and forget...this one time! The 'trust factor' will be low for a long time, no doubt! After a ten year relationship and the love is still there, well, I think it deserves some serious considering. It's easy to love when everything is going smoothly, but hard to love when things turn ugly. Sometimes that is when the most love is needed! We human beings are so imperfect. Is that an understatement, or what?! :-) I wish you good luck. Remember, you are not alone!
2007-03-24 12:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly loves him then forgive and see if the second chance will work. Ten years was a long time to throw something like love away. Although you did not specify what the hurt was all about, yet love can forgive and hide faults and it up to the individual to do what they think is best.
2007-03-24 19:24:06 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont go into detail about what he did to hurt you but I think this is the question only you can find the answer for. You were hurt and it must have been something big or you wouldnt be asking for advice. You have to look inside yourself and if you can never forgive or trust him again, it is over. You will probably always love him, it has been 10 years of your life that you have spent loving him, but sometimes love is not enough to keep things together.Good luck and be strong and listen to your inner self for the answers.
2007-03-24 19:33:48 · answer #3 · answered by lisa k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you love him or have you given up? Sounds like you are settling for less than you are worth. seems like ten years of hurt and he wants to torture you for another decade. Spend some time figuring out what is important to you, be good to yourself and maybe you will attract someone that can appreciate you, all the time. It's worth the gamble, as he has not offered a good hand to you.
2007-03-24 19:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by octavia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi !!!!!
Probably I'm the last one to give advise on this one, as that happened to me long time ago. That is the reason why I'm by myself after long 9 years!!!!
If I were you i would not give him, any chances!!! Chances for what?? So he can go and do it again???
Don't you know that that is all they know how to do???
Why did he hurt you in the first place???? If you give him another chance, he will do it again, and this time it will be devastated, for you!!!
It will take you a very long time to recuperate from it!!! I should know, that's why I'm by myself!!!
You love them, and they take advantage of your love, that means nothing for them!!!
Good luck!!! GOD BLESS YOU
A.Z.
2007-03-24 19:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel he has earned your trust and respect then you have no reason not to take him back but you must remember the old saying: Hurt me once, shame on you; hurt me twice, shame on me. If your heart can not forgive him then let him go. It is better to be alone and search for a new relationship than be in one than brings you heartache.
2007-03-24 19:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending of the moments in your last ten relationship yes there can still be love even thought he gave u pain.
2007-03-24 19:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by Cherelle M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming he didn't physically hurt you...if he did, forget it.
It depends on your feelings. What did he do? Why? You've got to determine if he's worth keeping, and what it will take to regain his trust. He's got to be willing to earn it back.
2007-03-24 19:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Chris S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is can you forgive him? If you can forgive him then with work it's possible to move on, if you can't then it'll never be good again.
2007-03-24 19:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by hmsmomof6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-24 19:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by wisper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋