Ex Boyfriend Jealous or he wants to make my life miserable?

Question

Ok, it's very confusing but i'll try to explain as clear as possible.
I had my 1st bf when i was 12-13, we broke up. Now i'm 16 and i have another whom i love dearly. the thing is, my ex was talking with my boyfriend one day after their volleyball competition and he asked him if he was virgin. He said yes and my ex chuckled. My boyfriend told him that he shouldn't "laught" since he thinks he is also one. But the fact is...my ex isn't. we had sex years before ( i know i am ashamed, but he " kind of " forced me into it, i was young, i did not know how to react.) Now my ex is askin if i will tell my boyfriend that i'm not a virgin but i never thought of telling him. I am afraid that my ex will tell my boyfriend before I do. Btw, my ex boyfriend is always buttin in our relationship. For example he asks me what i do with him, what i talk with him. How we first started the relationship. so y do you think my X is asking so many questions about me and him & why he asked my bf if he's stil V"

Answer 1

Your question said everything. Your ex-boyfriend is jealous and wants to make your life miserable so you will break up with your current boyfriend and get back together with him. He is being a childish brat because he didn't get his way.

First, stop talking to him. Hang up if he calls, avoid him in school or other social situations, stop talking to him. Your relationship is none of his business.

If your ex-boyfriend tells your current boyfriend or anyone that you had sex it is disrespectful and he is nothing more than a locker room gossip. I would not tell your current boyfriend details of your past relationships. What you did in the past is in the past. However, if your current boyfriend asked you general questions such as how many guys have you dated, if you are a virgin, answer honestly. He doesn't need the details, just honest answers.

Answer 2

you are very young and very little when you lost your virginity that's very special. and your ex shouldn't be laughing that your boyfriend is a virgin and i hope he remains one for as long as he finds the one special girl to share this with. Virginity is very sacred and special it should be on hold for that special moment with that special person. I won't be surprise if you'r ex will be the one to first tell him the way he's all nosey up on all your business. You got to tell your ex to keep out of it and that you dont appreciate all the million questions he's no one to integrate you. I'ts your life and what ever happend in the past stay's in the past you can alway's start fresh and save your self for the right time you can't make up what you lost but you sure can stay clean and start over by staying strong and saying "no" so when the time come's it'll feel like your first and this time it will be a special moment. You were young don't feel bad about it just learn from it and you'll learn to make better choices. Stop talking to your ex and if you want to remain friends tell him if he aint going to respect and stop asking questions that your going to put a stop the friendship.He might still have feelings for you and you might to but now there some one new who you need to respect and yes you got to talk to him before your ex does think what and how your going to tell him without hurting feeling's. Your ex is dumb laughing at his virginity who does he think he is he aint all that experience himself he's young and foolish. He might be jealouse at the fact he aint one anymore.Tell him "for having sex your so childish grow up and learn something from your experience act like the unvirgin that you are" maybe he'll feel so dumb and stay away.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I know it is hard but you will have to be honest with your current boyfriend if he asks you about your "virginity." It sounds like your ex boyfriend if not jealous but he is possessive. He may feel that since he had you first you will always be his. Unfortunately, this kind of attitude from an ex is hard to deal with but can be done. It requires you and your boyfriend to be stronger and more honest than you may expect or be ready for. Your current boyfriend must not feel that he is in the dark about you otherwise he may develop insecurity issues about your relationship. Be honest to your current boyfriend about the mind games your ex is playing and let him know you love him dearly and if he ever has a question about your past all he has to do is ask you and you will be honest with him

Answer 4

Your ex still wants control of you--get used to it with men this will never end. I would certainly tell your new bfriend you are not a virgin. If he likes/loves you enough he shouldn't care. Once you get in college and in your 20's very important to make sure you have an open communication and get yourself and a guy tested for std's before sex. You have nothing to be embarrassed about--tell your new one everything so no lies and stop talking to your ex--sounds like you have been--tell him to get lost.

Answer 5

Your ex is jealous..your new is jealous...you are all very young (whether you want to hear that or not)...Your ex tho is the culprit here..just tell your new bf that what was in the past remains and is in the past...you and he are together now and that is all that counts...if he can't deal with that ..move on...you're young and there will be many young men that will influence your life etc. Good Luck

Answer 6

either your ex is just a natural born a-hole or he still likes you. you should tell your ex how you feel when he asks that, and you should tell him how you felt when you had sex with him, tell him that he literally destroyed you in the inside, well.. only if you didn't like it... i don't know, you just got to tell him how you feel, make him feel sad, make him feel guilty for what he's done. i don't know how your boyfriend will react if he found out, you should ask your boyfriend if he trusts you, and tell him that you love him and that no matter what happens you'll always be with him. and then tell him to promise not to tell anybody or do anything to your ex like kill him, and then tell him and then hug him and stuff. i don't know, well yeah, i don't know, i'm dumb as hell when it comes to dating stuff, but yeah. i hope i helped

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Don't discuss this with your ex again. Don't discuss it with your current boyfriend either. At some point in the future if he insists on knowing if you are a virgin explain that you were raped when you were very young, but don't consider that sex, just a crime perpetrated against a very young girl.

Save yourself, don't sleep around.

Answer 9

Tell your boyfriend, that he should not talk to your ex, that he is just trouble, and that he is probably trying to break you both up. Now you need to talk to your ex for the last time, and tell him to stay out of your business. And if he call, or tries to get in touch with you hang up on him.

Answer 10

To me it sounds like he won't forget about the past and the only way for him to get attention from you is buttin' in on your present relationship