Give me your opinion.
2007-03-24 11:54:51 · 13 answers · asked by Richy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
yes, they should always be forgiven because it only hurts you to hold a grudge
should you stay with them that is another question. the relationship has to change so they don't cheat again.
if you can figure out what went wrong and fix it then it's ok to stay with them.
2007-03-24 11:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume you mean spouse as opposed to souse.
This is a question that only you can decide. It is a wrong thing for a spouse either male or female to do and destroys the trust which is one of the major things that make a marriage work.
So the question becomes, if you do forgive your spouse will you ever trust her again and how long will it take to rebuild it?
Can you and your spouse live with the lack of trust you may feel even though you may have forgiven her?
You might wish to go and discuss this with your minister or a counselor before you make a decision.
Once you have decided to forgive her, if you do, the incident shouldn't be brought up as a weapon to use against your spouse every time you have an argument. If you decide to forgive her that incident should be laid to rest.
2007-03-24 19:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It basically up to you isnt it? If they do cheat the first time in the realtionship it does not mean they will do it again.
Did you catch them ? Or did the spouse tell you?
Then the bigger problem is Why did they stray in the first place.
My suggestion here is better define your relationship, talk about what is happening here.
Are you going to forgive them , or hash it up each time you both get in a fight?
How strong is your relationship that you can trust them again?
If you can't then I say walk away.. It happend you learned. And perhaps. The other person has too.
Forgiving them is totally your call.. You live your life 24/7 you trully know what is going on then anyone who responds to these post.
2007-03-24 19:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by krennao 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in marriage there are easy and happy times and well, sad and hard times. These are what make a relationship stronger. I like to use the love knot for example. The more the two ends are pulled apart the tighter the knot becomes. SO if there is a love to be saved, then really any diversity can/should only make a relationship stronger...IMHO anyway.
2007-03-24 19:04:18 · answer #4 · answered by taylorvoltaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that depending on the people involved in time that forgiving is a good thing. If for your own frame of mind. But I suggest that the forgiveness be said in such a way as that you are not letting them off the hook for what they did. Forgive means to let go of the bad thing done to you but they do have consquences to deal with because they cheated. Some people think that forgiveness is a waste of time but if it makes you feel better in the long run I would do it.
2007-03-24 19:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by taljalea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i gave my man a second chance, and he cheated on me all the time and lied about it. Whats the point in being with sum1 who cheated on u, when you thought everything was ok and he/she loves you, and they are like "im sorry, i love you, it was a mistake". At the time they were cheating or just before, they knew what they were doing, and they continued, being fully aware that they had a partner. Who says they are not going to make another "mistake"?.
2007-03-24 19:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by louise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the one who cheated was truly sorry, understood exactly what kind of pain they had caused, and honestly wanted to make the relationship work. And also if it was the first and only time. Anything less than that and you're only setting yourself up for heartbreak.
2007-03-24 18:59:13 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you meant "spouse", right?
The answer is no. Listen to Kitt: "Sorry, but no. I forgave my spouse and he did it over and over again." When you forgive it's just carte blanche for him/her to do whatever wants to. And most important, the trust has already been lost. I think that lost of trust is the kiss of death for any relationship because you can never take it back.
2007-03-24 19:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Fernando 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say it all depends on how much you love that person but then again i don't beleive in cheating because if a spouse cheats once they will do it again, it would be hard to regain the trust.
2007-03-24 19:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but no. I forgave my spouse and he did it over and over again. We have now been divorced for 17 years.
2007-03-24 19:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋