I am engaged w/ my love of 4 years...I'm only 22 though. My fiance wants to start a family and move on w/ our lives together...but recently I got back from a trip from work and I feel like I want to move to a different city..."sail away from the safe harbor, explore, dream..." I don't know if it's just a moment thing...has anyone experienced this..any advice??
2007-03-24 11:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by elle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go out there and explore the world. Ask you love if she wants to go along and explore it together. You are too young to have kids. I know a lot of people have them at your age, but it is still too young. Live life and experience as much as you can before you settle down with kids, a mortgage etc.
2007-03-24 12:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you discussed this with your fiance? It would seem that if you two love each other and both are committed to the relationship then you can be together and live the dream together.
Wanting to spread your wings is a great thing and hopefully you will hang on to that feeling for the rest of your life as that is where all of our inventors/artists/stars come from. Just be sure that you are doing it together if you want to be together or let your fiance go.
You have been with this person since you were about 18 and wanting to know more of the world is a natural thing....do you want to do it together or alone is the question you need to ask yourself.
Also be sure this is not just a restlessness in you or a fear of commitment.
2007-03-24 11:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyday! I am 32 and still don't know what I want. I have never moved from the road I grew up on. I like the safety of it some days (knowing I had 2 uncles, a dad and a grandfather all right next door with rifles if I ever need them). Then I feel smothered and want to move an entire state away. Other days I just feel like I might want to just move 1 town away. I have a husband and 3 kids now, so that holds me back. I don't want to uproot them from all their friends. I think it is normal. The grass is always greener kind of thing =)
2007-03-24 11:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can do several things,
let him know how you feel about expanding and invite him to join you in the adventure before you settle down to raise a family. if you have that desire even if it's just for a split second, it's because you want to do and see more of this world. if you settle now, you may and more than likely regret it and perhaps resent him or your future kids for robbing you from what could have been.
you can go on your own and see where life takes you.
you can postpone your wedding and family plans go away for a while and come back to resume what you had.
or you can stay put.
if he really loves you, he will not want to hold you back. if you both love each other, if you are young, and have not one else but yourselves as a responsibility, then go away. live life somewhere else, you may realize that it's not your cup of tea and that you are happy back home, or you will settle somewhere else together.
it's a hard decision to make, but you really have to be 100% ready to commit before you get married and have a family. and based on that trip, you are not ready yet. and there is nothing wrong with that. you have the right to want to see more of this world. don't feel obligated to anyone but yourself right now. if you are not happy, you will not make him happy.
hope you make the best decision for your self
2007-03-24 11:37:43 · answer #4 · answered by la21unica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him. If you want him to go with you - great. If you don't... let him know. If you want him to - but he won't... go without him. The only thing we can't change in life is time. We can't get back a single moment. Before you marry and have children - you need to make sure you have fulfilled your life. Don't rush into marriage or a family. If he is "your love" he'll let you grow... I rushed. It's the only regret I have. I would have married the same person - but about 3 years later than I did. Maybe 4. :)
2007-03-24 11:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by lucki female 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's with your fiance you must speak of this with, not us...
and it's your choice as you get to live with the consequences... good thing you didn't start this after you were married!!! Your mate can always thank God for that!
2007-03-24 11:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Teri 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 is quite young to be married to be honest. So maybe that is what your instinct is telling you. I think it is better to get to know yourself better and to have enjoyed life a bit more before you take the big step.
2007-03-24 12:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explore the possibilities..........the ocean is real big and there is much more to see. You have plenty of time for planting your roots. Just make sure you are where you want to be.
2007-03-24 11:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by DRH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do it all the time . Just a way of spreading the DNA around the globe
2007-03-24 11:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 10:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋